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I want to witness to my family. They claim that they believe in Jesus but they live secular lives. I really fear that they will go to hell once they die, and I don't want that at all. I once tried to tell my mother what a true Christian was, but she did not listen, and used the "judge not" excuse, and she said that everyone makes mistakes, which is true, but they don't live for Jesus, from what they do and how they act. I don't think that they know what the Gospel is at all. Thing is that my father is a Haitian gospel singer.

So here is the thing: My parents think that they are saved (I don't think that my brother believes in Jesus at all) but they live secular lives, and they are a bit self-righteous. The worst type of position to be in not an unbeliever, but to think that you are saved an are not. Please, help me on how to show them the Gospel!
 
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I want to witness to my family. They claim that they believe in Jesus but they live secular lives. I really fear that they will go to hell once they die, and I don't want that at all. I once tried to tell my mother what a true Christian was, but she did not listen, and used the "judge not" excuse, and she said that everyone makes mistakes, which is true, but they don't live for Jesus, from what they do and how they act. I don't think that they know what the Gospel is at all. Thing is that my father is a Haitian gospel singer.

So here is the thing: My parents think that they are saved (I don't think that my brother believes in Jesus at all) but they live secular lives, and they are a bit self-righteous. The worst type of position to be in not an unbeliever, but to think that you are saved an are not. Please, help me on how to show them the Gospel!
Juk,

Show them a small handful of verses that clearly show what it means to be saved and have eternal life. John 17:3 and 1John 2:3 clearly and concisely state what it means to have eternal life, so they are great ones to use.
 
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Juk,

Show them a small handful of verses that clearly show what it means to be saved and have eternal life. John 17:3 and 1John 2:3 clearly and concisely state what it means to have eternal life, so they are great ones to use.
But telling them what eternal life is not the same as telling them what being saved is.
 
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But telling them what eternal life is not the same as telling them what being saved is.
It is actually the same thing. You can't have eternal life without being saved, and you can't be saved without being given eternal life.
 
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Juk, I have been there with members of my family.

When people are very familiar with you, and your own family will be the most familiar, then it is hard for them to accept teaching, regardless of the truth of the matter.

Our Lord had the same difficulty preaching in his own town. They remembered him as the son of a carpenter and did not think he had anything special to say.

Mark 6:1-5 [ NASB ]
1 Jesus went out from there and came into His hometown; and His disciples followed Him.
2 When the Sabbath came, He began to teach in the synagogue; and the many listeners were astonished, saying, "Where did this man get these things, and what is this wisdom given to Him, and such miracles as these performed by His hands?
3 Is not this the carpenter, the son of Mary, and brother of James and Joses and Judas and Simon? Are not His sisters here with us?" And they took offense at Him.
4 Jesus said to them, " A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown and among his own relatives and in his own household."
5 And He could do no miracle there except that He laid His hands on a few sick people and healed them. 6 And He wondered at their unbelief.


Please note that our Lord did not let these difficulties stop him from speaking, but the unbelief of the people prevented Him from helping them. So, yes you should witness to your family in all patience and love, but you cannot force them to believe.
 
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I want to witness to my family. They claim that they believe in Jesus but they live secular lives. I really fear that they will go to hell once they die, and I don't want that at all. I once tried to tell my mother what a true Christian was, but she did not listen, and used the "judge not" excuse, and she said that everyone makes mistakes, which is true, but they don't live for Jesus, from what they do and how they act. I don't think that they know what the Gospel is at all. Thing is that my father is a Haitian gospel singer.

So here is the thing: My parents think that they are saved (I don't think that my brother believes in Jesus at all) but they live secular lives, and they are a bit self-righteous. The worst type of position to be in not an unbeliever, but to think that you are saved an are not. Please, help me on how to show them the Gospel!

Seems to me that you are way off base. And you need to concentrate on your own walk with Christ and allow the Holy Spirit to correct your parents. God is big enough. According to the Bible....every person has to walk out their own salvation.
 
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I want to witness to my family. They claim that they believe in Jesus but they live secular lives. I really fear that they will go to hell once they die, and I don't want that at all. I once tried to tell my mother what a true Christian was, but she did not listen, and used the "judge not" excuse, and she said that everyone makes mistakes, which is true, but they don't live for Jesus, from what they do and how they act. I don't think that they know what the Gospel is at all. Thing is that my father is a Haitian gospel singer.

So here is the thing: My parents think that they are saved (I don't think that my brother believes in Jesus at all) but they live secular lives, and they are a bit self-righteous. The worst type of position to be in not an unbeliever, but to think that you are saved an are not. Please, help me on how to show them the Gospel!
Juk I think you need to relax.
You go from one extremity to another over your salvation and your families salvation and worry about this and judge that and this and that. In all of this I will bet you have not spent any real quality time with the Father or enjoyed some peace and quiet and fun have you ?

If the answer is to the above is afirmative then ask your self one question - who is behind all these thoughts and emotions in my head.
Prayer is what you need to do. You can not force your parents to believe how you see it or act as you feel they should.

Get your life in order and keep them covered in prayer and pray the word over them. You will see more things happen for the best.
Blessings
Jim
 
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I want to witness to my family. They claim that they believe in Jesus but they live secular lives. I really fear that they will go to hell once they die, and I don't want that at all. I once tried to tell my mother what a true Christian was, but she did not listen, and used the "judge not" excuse, and she said that everyone makes mistakes, which is true, but they don't live for Jesus, from what they do and how they act. I don't think that they know what the Gospel is at all. Thing is that my father is a Haitian gospel singer.

So here is the thing: My parents think that they are saved (I don't think that my brother believes in Jesus at all) but they live secular lives, and they are a bit self-righteous. The worst type of position to be in not an unbeliever, but to think that you are saved an are not. Please, help me on how to show them the Gospel!
Just love them. A prophet isn't a prophet in his own home, so be aware you could just drive them away. Love them. Pray for them and do whatever the Lord says to do to honor them. Fear not.