Anger in Spirit or an Emotional Agenda?

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bobinfaith

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Hello brothers and sisters;

Today I was listening to a preacher on Christian Talk Radio give a message on anger and it spoke to me as a man of God.

When we get angry and then express our anger at someone or at us, the Scriptures may fall short in our hearts whether we are a disciple or not, and the other will only hear the tone of anger - hurting them or they may push back.

The Scriptures teach us over and over about guarding our hearts and tongues when interfacing with others but we still have to remember wisdom and discernment before we speak. How about when someone or something triggers our anger, how do we react to it? Or when we are thinking about a circumstance, do we keep rewinding as the anger still lingers?

One of the areas that I'm familiar with are Christians who bounce from one Christian site to another because they got into a confrontation with a member and publicly post which only deepens the damage. More times they'll just log off and on to another site than seek reconciliation.

It's a tough work in progress but God can provide the way that will enable us to confront anger and how to respond within others or ourself. But it's a discipline that isn't always easy to manage no matter where we are in age and our faith.

This is not a trick question or baiting. What are your personal thoughts and how do you bring resolve to this challenge of anger we all face from time to time?

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When I feel angry I ask myself some questions

1. Why do I feel angry
2. Is this worth feeling angry about
3. Hiw can I resolve this without anger

No I am not always successful especially if I have not asked The Holy Spirit to guide me.
Blessings
 
I think with anger as an emotion go somewhere to calm down, take a breath, go for a walk. Take some time out. Then come back to deal with it.
We are all easily offended as well as sometimes inadvertantly offending others without even realising it. Just being humans prone to sin we are offensive to God in that we can never be holier than thou.

Christian do however have help with the Holy spirit to cultivate fruit of temperance (self-control) or keeping our temper. Sometimes you need to laugh at something and release that tension. Humour often can diffuse ill-will.. women often cry, (into a pillow) men can go for a run or chop up wood or something
 
Lanolin said:
I think with anger as an emotion go somewhere to calm down, take a breath, go for a walk. Take some time out. Then come back to deal with it.
We are all easily offended as well as sometimes inadvertantly offending others without even realising it. Just being humans prone to sin we are offensive to God in that we can never be holier than thou.

Christian do however have help with the Holy spirit to cultivate fruit of temperance (self-control) or keeping our temper. Sometimes you need to laugh at something and release that tension. Humour often can diffuse ill-will.. women often cry, (into a pillow) men can go for a run or chop up wood or something
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Good pist thanks you Lanolin
Can I add count to 10 ?
 
Dave F. said:
My son had a boss that told him to smile when he was dealing with an ill tempered customer, You will calm down and be able to just talk to them without raising your voice. My son tells me it works quite well. I have not tried it myself, but, I don't have to deal with the public either.
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Hi Dave F.
What a great piece of advice. I can see that working and I will try it. Thank you.
 
Anger, both in general and on a personal level, seems to be taking a larger and larger hold of our thoughts.

Much of this has been fueled by political stresses where the leadership on all sides have found it expedient to encourage their followers to be appalled at all others.

The same has been going on in the lives of the churches where we get into squabbles between and among various creeds.

Much of the anger comes from our sense of being out of control on a personal level, and that we feel overwhelming need to be agreed with.

That last (lack of personal control) needs some scrutiny.

What kind of control do we expect? Do we really want to quash anyone that disagrees with us?

We want others to say we are justified in our anger toward whatever we oppose.

Modern life fosters this kind of anxiety. We are discouraged from considering contrasting views.

But we must realize that our area of greatest influence and control is in our own thoughts and behavior.
 
Contrast - light and shade are needed for depth.
The gospel actually had four different views - Matthew, Mark Luke and John. They did not always agree on the same points or some had views that others didn't have etc. You need them all to see Jesus. All New Testament Bibles have all four gospels and not just one and cut out the other three. While we might prefer one over the other all four are needed.
 
In high school I think it is still taught opposing viewpoints and how to effectively debate (debating teams, rebuttals, right of reply etc) I guess its training people to be either good lawyers or good liars lol.

eg I secretly agree but I'm supposed to oppose you and argue. Confusing.
 
Sometimes I don’t bother with my anger because I don’t value it.
“Calm down” to me sometimes means forget it, everything will be alright😞

If it festers before I know it I hate someone or something.
But now I’m learning to listen to it.

The bible tells us not to let the sun down on our anger. If we are angry we obviously care about something.

So let’s hold our hands up for our anger! Even a little frustration should be loved. Let’s have some compassion. Let’s not judge it. God is telling us something ain’t right here. No matter how small. Even a mild frustration should to be acknowledged…

Starting from love we must honour own feelings, listen to them and go from there as harmless as doves.

Good thread.
 
Being angry is not the problem. It is why we are angry that is the problem. Jesus was angry with the money changers because they were cheating people, His was a righteous anger. If we get angry at some one because they made a mistake and caused us an inconvenience, we are unjustly angry and have been unwilling to forgive (if only temporarily). How we handle our anger is important, we should take it to the Lord and seek His guidance.
 
bobinfaith said:
Hello brothers and sisters;

Today I was listening to a preacher on Christian Talk Radio give a message on anger and it spoke to me as a man of God.

When we get angry and then express our anger at someone or at us, the Scriptures may fall short in our hearts whether we are a disciple or not, and the other will only hear the tone of anger - hurting them or they may push back.

The Scriptures teach us over and over about guarding our hearts and tongues when interfacing with others but we still have to remember wisdom and discernment before we speak. How about when someone or something triggers our anger, how do we react to it? Or when we are thinking about a circumstance, do we keep rewinding as the anger still lingers?

One of the areas that I'm familiar with are Christians who bounce from one Christian site to another because they got into a confrontation with a member and publicly post which only deepens the damage. More times they'll just log off and on to another site than seek reconciliation.

It's a tough work in progress but God can provide the way that will enable us to confront anger and how to respond within others or ourself. But it's a discipline that isn't always easy to manage no matter where we are in age and our faith.

This is not a trick question or baiting. What are your personal thoughts and how do you bring resolve to this challenge of anger we all face from time to time?

More to come...
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Bob you said........
"One of the areas that I'm familiar with are Christians who bounce from one Christian site to another because they got into a confrontation with a member and publicly post which only deepens the damage. More times they'll just log off and on to another site than seek reconciliation."

O how true that is!!!!

My thought is that a great number of people simply can not or will not admit that they were wrong.
You see....we like what we know even if it is wrong because we do not have to use any more effort to learn what is right.

Those you speak of on forum sites, when they cause a confrontation simply do not have the ability to say...........
"You know, I just may be wrong in my opinion and I am sorry to cause you discomfort".

Instead of admitting that THEY are the problem they leave BUT when they go to another web site, guess what......there they have the same problem with someone else.

My dear brother..........I saw the very same thing when I was in business and in the Church.
 
Dave F. said:
Being angry is not the problem. It is why we are angry that is the problem. Jesus was angry with the money changers because they were cheating people, His was a righteous anger. If we get angry at some one because they made a mistake and caused us an inconvenience, we are unjustly angry and have been unwilling to forgive (if only temporarily). How we handle our anger is important, we should take it to the Lord and seek His guidance.
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Correct! Good stuff!
It is HOW we act when we are angry. Do we curse, or attack, or confront, or yell or even strike someone.
 
Siloam said:
Anger, both in general and on a personal level, seems to be taking a larger and larger hold of our thoughts.

Much of this has been fueled by political stresses where the leadership on all sides have found it expedient to encourage their followers to be appalled at all others.

The same has been going on in the lives of the churches where we get into squabbles between and among various creeds.

Much of the anger comes from our sense of being out of control on a personal level, and that we feel overwhelming need to be agreed with.

That last (lack of personal control) needs some scrutiny.

What kind of control do we expect? Do we really want to quash anyone that disagrees with us?

We want others to say we are justified in our anger toward whatever we oppose.

Modern life fosters this kind of anxiety. We are discouraged from considering contrasting views.

But we must realize that our area of greatest influence and control is in our own thoughts and behavior.
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Very, very true!

I am sure that you remember that there was a time when you would see someone allow you to get in front of them in line or in a car. NOW...........You may be hit or run into.
 
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