Complaining Coworkers

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Yesterday my fiancé came over after work and was telling me how everyone was complaining about such mundane things. He piped up saying," The one person that "should be complaining is not." His co-worker looked at him and ask what to you mean? He replied my fiancée. She's in the hospital. His co-worker was obviously shocked, concerned and asked why he wasn't with me - again it's so difficult with working etc [all the main guys are off right now so he is trying to help as much as he can]. He said no my daughter goes but yes I was having infusions. He remarked most people complain so much or get upset over things that don't matter when here my fiancée can't walk, can't shower, can't dress herself and constantly goes to the hospital to get treatments and she barely says a word."

I can only pray it's a testimony to Christ. I get weary, I get emotional, I am human. I told my family when you have had the worse - compared to this life I am incredibly grateful.

Being physically, mentally, sexually and verbally abuses as a child up to young adult.

Having no heat in the winter [freezing cold]

Having inadequate cooling/AC in the home in the hot summer [as a heart patient and 1 lung].

Exposed to demonic movies [vampires, witchcraft, hell razer, demon possessions]. My Mom WAS supposedly a Christian. [4 years old on]

No washer or dryer - I wore soaked wet clothing in the winter to school.

Barely any food. I went hungry.

Constant turmoil and fear in my home.

Food was spoiled [in fridge/mold in fridge] seemed editable.

Went to McDonald's or Burger King - almost every day. Mom didn't like to cook and when she did it was left in the fridge for days.

Our house was infested with fleas. My Mom never treated it and I contiuned with bites on my legs.

Comparing to now. We have heat. We can adjust the heat. I am never cold. We have laundry [we ensure all clothing is dry and clean]. My home is clean without any infested bugs. I have fresh cooked food limit of 3 days in the fridge [at all times]. My fridge is constantly wiped down by my daughter and at times my house cleaner. I am not abused in any way, shape or form. I have portable A/C - I am always nice and cool in the summer. I don't have to watch movies I don't want to - especially that aren't pleasing to God and go against His Word.

I may not have much but I am incredibly grateful my life is safe, secure and protected in Christ. My immediate needs are met in every way. We never go hungry, we aren't lacking in comfort [hot/cold], there is no violation and abuse. Food is fresh and ready [at times the good bank we have to check but generally it was frozen prior to date 📅]. My clothes are clean and dry always.

Nope nothing to complain about. ❤️ All glory to God. I appreciate what God has provided in my life as it was so difficult before but it made me incredibly grateful for what I have now. I am ever so grateful for the life I have with the people that love me. Provide for me. Care for me.
 
Hello TransformedinChrist;

Work in itself is a ministry for Christian men and women. Our character, using the skills, abilities, talents and spiritual gifts are all from God. Our response to Him is how we utilize what He anoints us in our labor. This is our witness to others in the workplace.

If what you described about your fiance's co-worker's grumbling is directed at their job, then this is typical of biting the hand of the employer who feeds them.

If it's not grumbling about their work but only whining about life then chances are they carry this outside the workplace as well. This is sad.

God loves when we give thanks in all things with a grateful heart. (Don Moen Give Thanks)


I always prayed for my co-workers and managers but I also prayed for myself, asking God to guard my heart and tongue in my labor.

Ephesians 4:29, 29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

God bless you, sister, and thank you for sharing.
 
One of the many good things of CFS is that it points out to me my failings. Today I am going to pray for help not to moan and to remember and give thanks for all the blessings I have. Thank you for sharing Sister.
Blessings
 
Cosia said:
One of the many good things of CFS is that it points out to me my failings. Today I am going to pray for help not to moan and to remember and give thanks for all the blessings I have. Thank you for sharing Sister.
Blessings
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I agree. CFS has been this for me too. Examining and revaluation of perspective.
 
I think its a given that employees complain about their jobs when they have no control over what they do in their jobs (since boss makes all the important decisions) likewise children are not in any control over their living circumstances (their parents make all the decisions)

When we are ill often we don't complain because we are not in control of even our own bodies. Doctors and nurses make the medical decisions for us, we can only accept what we are given, otherwise, we may die.

I know there seems to be a debate whether people have free will or not, but ultimately God is in control of all our circumstances and if we have any complaints, needs or petitions we go to Him in prayer. Don't worry Jesus will advocate for us, we don't need to join a union or call a lawyer or anything.
 
TransformedinChrist said:
Yesterday my fiancé came over after work and was telling me how everyone was complaining about such mundane things. He piped up saying," The one person that "should be complaining is not." His co-worker looked at him and ask what to you mean? He replied my fiancée. She's in the hospital. His co-worker was obviously shocked, concerned and asked why he wasn't with me - again it's so difficult with working etc [all the main guys are off right now so he is trying to help as much as he can]. He said no my daughter goes but yes I was having infusions. He remarked most people complain so much or get upset over things that don't matter when here my fiancée can't walk, can't shower, can't dress herself and constantly goes to the hospital to get treatments and she barely says a word."

I can only pray it's a testimony to Christ. I get weary, I get emotional, I am human. I told my family when you have had the worse - compared to this life I am incredibly grateful.

Being physically, mentally, sexually and verbally abuses as a child up to young adult.

Having no heat in the winter [freezing cold]

Having inadequate cooling/AC in the home in the hot summer [as a heart patient and 1 lung].

Exposed to demonic movies [vampires, witchcraft, hell razer, demon possessions]. My Mom WAS supposedly a Christian. [4 years old on]

No washer or dryer - I wore soaked wet clothing in the winter to school.

Barely any food. I went hungry.

Constant turmoil and fear in my home.

Food was spoiled [in fridge/mold in fridge] seemed editable.

Went to McDonald's or Burger King - almost every day. Mom didn't like to cook and when she did it was left in the fridge for days.

Our house was infested with fleas. My Mom never treated it and I contiuned with bites on my legs.

Comparing to now. We have heat. We can adjust the heat. I am never cold. We have laundry [we ensure all clothing is dry and clean]. My home is clean without any infested bugs. I have fresh cooked food limit of 3 days in the fridge [at all times]. My fridge is constantly wiped down by my daughter and at times my house cleaner. I am not abused in any way, shape or form. I have portable A/C - I am always nice and cool in the summer. I don't have to watch movies I don't want to - especially that aren't pleasing to God and go against His Word.

I may not have much but I am incredibly grateful my life is safe, secure and protected in Christ. My immediate needs are met in every way. We never go hungry, we aren't lacking in comfort [hot/cold], there is no violation and abuse. Food is fresh and ready [at times the good bank we have to check but generally it was frozen prior to date 📅]. My clothes are clean and dry always.

Nope nothing to complain about. ❤️ All glory to God. I appreciate what God has provided in my life as it was so difficult before but it made me incredibly grateful for what I have now. I am ever so grateful for the life I have with the people that love me. Provide for me. Care for me.
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Have you ever wondered why the unchurched do not actually go to church but complain about church?????

I would go but the Preacher is tooo LOUD!
I would go but the Preacher is not able to be heard.
I would go but it is always toooo cold in the auditorium.
I would go but it is always toooo hot in the auditorium.
I would go but the pews are toooo hard.
I would go but the pews are toooo soft.
I would go but they sign all those Old songs.
I would go but they sign all those New songs.

Now why do people complain ???? To get ATTENTION!

Some people find the easiest way to connect with others is through complaining. Therefore people complain to get attention from others and to feel connected to others.

Then 2nd, People complain to NOT BE RESPONSIBLE!

Some people complain to remove responsibly. These people complain to get themselves out of doing a task that they don’t want to do. These people complain to make it seem as though the task at hand is not possible. Since it isn’t possible, it isn’t reasonable to expect them to complete it! This is someone who complains but does nothing.

I can assure that the one who complains the most, always does the LEAST!

These types of people who complain have to tell a lie to themselves. They have to make up an obstacle that is preventing them from reaching a goal, and then complain about how massive the obstacle is, or better said in country boy Englsih.....they are LAZY!
 
My complaining is usually a mix of a few negative things as what people here have also discovered. . One of them that I am trying to outgrow is the I have noticed its a stupid way to connect with others. You know you both complain of the constantly late trains or the weather but its not that really big of a deal, your not too affected by it but you connect with people about it anyway...its crazy. I know its a form of sharing but the energy is not only hopeless but it distracts from the real issues.... our real pain, struggles loneliness etc...

Somehow when I am feeling vulnerable in the moment, and i'm sat next to someone at the train station , and they say 'you alright' in a everyday English way, .... and you say 'yeh fine' in a 'what's the point attitude' you have your own troubles to deal with.
 
Major said:
Have you ever wondered why the unchurched do not actually go to church but complain about church?????

I would go but the Preacher is tooo LOUD!
I would go but the Preacher is not able to be heard.
I would go but it is always toooo cold in the auditorium.
I would go but it is always toooo hot in the auditorium.
I would go but the pews are toooo hard.
I would go but the pews are toooo soft.
I would go but they sign all those Old songs.
I would go but they sign all those New songs.

Now why do people complain ???? To get ATTENTION!

Some people find the easiest way to connect with others is through complaining. Therefore people complain to get attention from others and to feel connected to others.

Then 2nd, People complain to NOT BE RESPONSIBLE!

Some people complain to remove responsibly. These people complain to get themselves out of doing a task that they don’t want to do. These people complain to make it seem as though the task at hand is not possible. Since it isn’t possible, it isn’t reasonable to expect them to complete it! This is someone who complains but does nothing.

I can assure that the one who complains the most, always does the LEAST!

These types of people who complain have to tell a lie to themselves. They have to make up an obstacle that is preventing them from reaching a goal, and then complain about how massive the obstacle is, or better said in country boy Englsih.....they are LAZY!
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Wow I need to write this down. I never realized about that. Complaining = attention and remove responsibility. Again I will have to add this to my nugget of things. I think I am going to open up a word doc to add all these tidbits of information.
 
Via dolarossa said:
My complaining is usually a mix of a few negative things as what people here have also discovered. . One of them that I am trying to outgrow is the I have noticed its a stupid way to connect with others. You know you both complain of the constantly late trains or the weather but its not that really big of a deal, your not too affected by it but you connect with people about it anyway...its crazy. I know its a form of sharing but the energy is not only hopeless but it distracts from the real issues.... our real pain, struggles loneliness etc...

Somehow when I am feeling vulnerable in the moment, and i'm sat next to someone at the train station , and they say 'you alright' in a everyday English way, .... and you say 'yeh fine' in a 'what's the point attitude' you have your own troubles to deal with.
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I think society as a whole does that ALOT. Influence, how we were raised, environment etc. Haven't you ever noticed misery loves company?
 
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