Paul and Peter both teach God predestines according to His foreknowledge...(arguments sometimes ensue here)...but I would add that all the commandments in the Greek are in the imperative mood which means man must be capable of obeying them (he just will not)...so though we are corrupted and depraved, we are not Totally depraved if that means absolutely incapable...God insists in some places that we choose between two ways. Choose one and be blessed and the other be cursed. If we were absolutely incapable of such a choice that would be a cruel false hope to impose. And as previously stated. God is no respecter of persons...IMO we are all equals at the foot of the cross
Now having said that there are certainly instances in the Bible where God makes a person to be exactly what and who they are (for example it is said Judas was meant to be the son of perdition, that God took Pharaoh's heart, which was already hardened toward the children of Israel, and hardened it further for His glory, God chose Israel, and so on,)...so election (and or predestination) and man having a responsibility of will are both represented in the Bible (whether or not we can ever intellectually or theologically pinpoint the exact hows and whys).
Now I do not know if anyone realizes this or not but there is nothing remotely like Calvinism in the church for at least the 1st 300 years and even the claim that Augustine taught this is in error (read On Grace and Free will) for he adamantly defends the doctrine of free will and that God demands man's willful cooperation and obedience against those who took his arguments against Pelegius to the other extreme (God creating one to salvation and another to damnation). No one taught by the Apostles or by those first leaders the Apostles taught held this doctrine...
Salvation is totally of grace because God owes NO MAN anything (all have sinned and fallen short), faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word, but only those who receive Him are given the right to become the sons of God (some reject Him and His word - Romans 1)...He initiates and if we respond correctly He saves but He leaves the initial decision up to us...will we remain the lord of our life, or submit to Him accepting Christ? This is the issue. His ever offered grace can be resisted (Acts 7:51)...He prefers it would not be (1 Timothy 2:3-4; 2 Peter 3:9) resisted but some refuse (like Satan) to do it God's way...
So that is why I see two "ways" in the Bible...God's way and our way....your way or Yahweh...I set before you life and death, blessing and curse...."choose life"!
There is my opinion in a nutshell (discussion or debate can be for other threads on individual points) thank you all for being honest sharing your understandings
In His love
Brother Paul