God is indeed in control. That's not the issue. The issue is free will - there I said it. God set up a lot of laws, not the Ten Commandments mind you, but laws of life. God allows us to mate without issues. But if I mate with 50 women the odds are in my favor for developing something. Even if they're all virgins. Earth's law of gravity can be circumvented by flying faster. The speed to maintain a level orbit is about 17,500 mph. Go faster and you break orbit, slow down and you fall back to earth. Watching horror will affect your thinking for bad.
Our lives are traveling along the highway of time. Just like on a country road, the law is, stay on your side of the yellow line (in America). If you deviate nothing may happen. But the more times you do it, the odds are in your favor of hitting another on-coming car head on. If you cross the white line you may end up in the ditch. These lines are God's laws. You're free to cross them, but then you suffer the consequences.
Now let's say you're driving along and you begin to nod off to sleep. You drift into the other lane and a car is coming. The Lord sends a messenger to wake you up. You respond just in time to swerve back into your lane avoiding a wreck. He tells you to pull over and get some rest. Not learning from your mistake, you continue driving, now you're more tired, using all your energy to focus on the road, you nod off again. It happens again, but this time you don't respond and you're in a horrible car accident with grave consequences. Did God lose control? Not at all.
At the same time we have free will, His will is supreme. He got you to wake up so you wouldn't kill a family for which He has great plans. The next guy you killed was the next psycho, though you'll never walk again. Not something God wished for you to experience, but you would never know about the first car, nor the second, you only know what happened to you, and now you have to live with it.
Society is imploding because parents, judges, teachers and bosses, don't let those under their authority suffer for their actions so they don't grow up or continue to be fools, Pro 1:7.