The problem stems in what Believers take away from Job and what man teaches about job.
Most come away believing in some way that God offered up Job and threw him under the bus. That is so far from the truth.
satan even speaks that God had a hedge (Blessing of the Lord) all around every area of Job and his life.
That's a key to this.....
satan knew this because he had been trying to destroy this Wealthy Blessed God Fearing man for some time but could Not.
This is what took it's toll on Job.
satan finally got Fear and Worrying into jobs heart.
That is why job got destroyed.
Jim, your discussion of Job does not match the text of scripture.
Notice that Satan started testing Job in 1:13, when a mesenger came and told him of the calamities:
Job 1:13-19
Now on the day when his sons and his daughters were eating and drinking wine in their oldest brother’s house, a messenger came to Job and said, “The oxen were plowing and the donkeys feeding beside them, and the Sabeans attacked and took them. They also slew the servants with the edge of the sword, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” While he was still speaking, another also came and said, “The fire of God fell from heaven and burned up the sheep and the servants and consumed them, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” While he was still speaking, another also came and said, “The Chaldeans formed three bands and made a raid on the camels and took them and slew the servants with the edge of the sword, and I alone have escaped to tell you.” While he was still speaking, another also came and said, “Your sons and your daughters were eating and drinking wine in their oldest brother’s house, and behold, a great wind came from across the wilderness and struck the four corners of the house, and it fell on the young people and they died, and I alone have escaped to tell you.”
Job was greatly grieved (tore his robe, shaved his head, etc), but fell to the ground and worshiped. He then took a thoughtful approach to his calamities:
Job 1:20-22
Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head, and he fell to the ground and worshiped. He said,
“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,
And naked I shall return there.
The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away.
Blessed be the name of the Lord.”
Through all this Job did not sin nor did he blame God. (my emphasis)
Note the last verse. Job had not sinned, nor blame God. Later, he wanted to make his case before God, but even there, he was only asking why, not saying God had wronged him.
Your explanation, that Job's calamities were because of his own worry (even though they began well before Job began to worry) is more like Eliphaz was saying in chapter 4. To Eliphaz, Jobs calamities were proof that Job had sinned.
All of Jobs supposed friends (Eliphaz, Bildad and Zophar), and also his wife, felt that God, being holy and righteous would have prevented the enemy from harming a good man.
God, Himself responded in Job 42:7-9
Job 42:7-9
It came about after the Lord had spoken these words to Job, that the Lord said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “My wrath is kindled against you and against your two friends, because you have not spoken of Me what is right as My servant Job has. Now therefore, take for yourselves seven bulls and seven rams, and go to My servant Job, and offer up a burnt offering for yourselves, and My servant Job will pray for you. For I will accept him so that I may not do with you according to your folly, because you have not spoken of Me what is right, as My servant Job has.” So Eliphaz the Temanite and Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite went and did as the Lord told them; and the Lord accepted Job.
God's response to Job, was only that Job had no right to demand the God justify Himself. Neither to Job himself , nor to his friends.
Paul touched on this in Romans 9:
Romans 9:19-22
You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who resists His will?” On the contrary, who are you, O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? Or does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use?
It is not for the clay to presume to make the potter justify Himself. We are His to use as He sees fit. He desires the best for us, but sometimes our best resides in what is best for His plan. This is not throwing anyone under the bus. This is the sovereign God working His plan.