Trying hard not to get discouraged...

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Well my check came and again I had to help my mom...with groceries and gas...and I'm left with nothing...

Its getting depressing because I do hard work as a housekeeper,,my feet ache when I get home and it sucks to not be able to save because my dad laid around for 5 months and my brother gives his money away and the other doesnt work...

I feel like I'm being punished by picking up their slack... Ive been on my first job 7months theres no reason why I shouldnt have a savings..

I'm just really sad because I feel ill mever move out or move on...I'm 26..I'm so old I can feel it..people younger than me are overlapping me.. I feel ill never move on...it just depresses me to the point of wantingg to quit both jobs bc I'm not doing this for my health and I may as well be volunteering bc I give all my money to my mom...its come to the point I actually hate when I get paid.

And I'm starting to resent my family.

Please help! So I dont do anything crazy...I'm extremely frustrated.
 
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Budget girl.
Helping out is one thing but supporting is another

Deduct your tithe and some savings and what you need to live and Then help out.

Pray about it all and Budget Budget budget.
Blessings
FCJ
Budgeting isnt the problem...the problem is that my mom always needs help because no one will help her but me.
 
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Well my check came and again I had to help my mom...with groceries and gas...and I'm left with nothing...

Its getting depressing because I do hard work as a housekeeper,,my feet ache when I get home and it sucks to not be able to save because my dad laid around for 5 months and my brother gives his money away and the other doesnt work...

I feel like I'm being punished by picking up their slack... Ive been on my first job 7months theres no reason why I shouldnt have a savings..

I'm just really sad because I feel ill mever move out or move on...I'm 26..I'm so old I can feel it..people younger than me are overlapping me.. I feel ill never move on...it just depresses me to the point of wantingg to quit both jobs bc I'm not doing this for my health and I may as well be volunteering bc I give all my money to my mom...its come to the point I actually hate when I get paid.

And I'm starting to resent my family.

Please help! So I dont do anything crazy...I'm extremely frustrated.
You're laying up your treasure in heaven, not on earth, which is a far better thing.

1 Corinthians 10:31 (KJV)
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.​

If you do it for the Lord, then it'll be up to Him to solve the problem and you don't have to worry about it and certainly you put to shame the thoughts that plague you in this matter.
 

bobinfaith

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Well my check came and again I had to help my mom...with groceries and gas...and I'm left with nothing...

Its getting depressing because I do hard work as a housekeeper,,my feet ache when I get home and it sucks to not be able to save because my dad laid around for 5 months and my brother gives his money away and the other doesnt work...

I feel like I'm being punished by picking up their slack... Ive been on my first job 7months theres no reason why I shouldnt have a savings..

I'm just really sad because I feel ill mever move out or move on...I'm 26..I'm so old I can feel it..people younger than me are overlapping me.. I feel ill never move on...it just depresses me to the point of wantingg to quit both jobs bc I'm not doing this for my health and I may as well be volunteering bc I give all my money to my mom...its come to the point I actually hate when I get paid.

And I'm starting to resent my family.

Please help! So I dont do anything crazy...I'm extremely frustrated.
Hello Autumn Oddity;

I have prayerfully been reading your threads and you are getting some wise counsel from scripture.

I was wondering, did you mention you are working more than one job?

For starters, you don't seem to have a large debt ratio, just that your paycheck is already spent helping your Mom.

I'm retired in my accounting career and there is a simple "costing and budget" that you can use as a guideline to manage your monies.

I'm also praying for God's portion and your provisions.

God bless you and your family.
 
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bobinfaith

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Budget girl.
Helping out is one thing but supporting is another

Deduct your tithe and some savings and what you need to live and Then help out.

Pray about it all and Budget Budget budget.
Blessings
FCJ
Hello FC Jim;

In my previous post to Autumn Oddity; do the rules at CFS allow me to message our sister (if it's ok with her) a simple tip for costing and budgeting?

I want to stay within the guideline rules of our fellowship.

Thank you, brother!
 

Fish Catcher Jim

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Hello FC Jim;

In my previous post to Autumn Oddity; do the rules at CFS allow me to message our sister (if it's ok with her) a simple tip for costing and budgeting?

I want to stay within the guideline rules of our fellowship.

Thank you, brother!
Hi Bob,
No Sir that is Not a problem at all especially if autumn oddity is good with it.

Thank you for the respectful post my Brother and Friend.
God Bless
FCJ
 

bobinfaith

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Thank you, FC Jim!

Hey Autumn Oddity, I'm happy to serve with a tip on budgeting if you will let me know.

Question. Did you say you are working more than one job?

God bless you and your family.
 
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1. Speak to someone about your situation at your local church. Seeking someone wiser than you to asses your home life will help you find a plan that you may be able to start working for. Also you can convey your needs to them and they can lift you and your situation up in prayer. There is also a small possibility they through the church community they may have some better living situations for you should they deem that your living situation isn't a good fit.

2. I'm not sure what your job situation looks like at the moment. I do remember reading that you are working two part time jobs. If possible maybe take some time to see if you can find a better full time job that suits you better and see if there re any positions that can pay you more than what you are making at your current places of employment.

3. Continue to lift your needs and desires up to the Lord in prayer as well as make sure that you are pursuing the Lord as well in reading the bible. If you have any friends that are also believers all well I'm sure you have told them about the things that you are struggling with. Ask them to be in prayer about your situation.

4. If possible as well try to speak to your family about your state of being living in there household and see if there can be a better solution to what is being employed while living in there home. If this is something that you may think may help I would ask a fellow believer to pray for you before bringing this up to your family and maybe even ask them to accompany you while speak to your family.
 
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In my humble opinion, what I hear is that you're wrestling with your obedience and compassion toward your family. You are saying that "You" are the one who's bearing the brunt of the burden. If you stop being yourself by moving on, you might even find yourself surprised when you look back on your previous situation. They say that hindsight is 20/20. I spent a year in a homeless shelter because my entire social circle turned their back on me. In New York City they have a motto called (food, clothes, and shelter) but as a Christian I don't practice it, because Jesus tells us not to worry because our Father will provide for us. But Jesus also instructs us to count the cost when will build a tower or decide to war against the enemy, so that we can "finish." I feel like your words communicate that it's an issue of your identity, and not necessarily finances. What I mean by that is: if you belong in that situation because God has you there, then you must arrive at a level of peace with that reality, but if you don't belong in that situation because it violates your identity, then you must make a final judgment. Identity has everything to do with location. If your family needs your help, more than you need financial independence, it becomes a matter of acknowledging the sacrifice that you're making. Lastly, America is so caught up in "conspicuous consumption" that it's a shame. I've been in your shoes and there's no easy answer. Solomon taught that "Wisdom is the principle thing, and with all of your getting: get understanding." You're on your way to success because you are pursuing understanding.