Were there any times in your life when you (or someone else) were struggling and someone dismissed it with “there are people worse off than you”?

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PTSDintheAsylum

I’ve seen where a comedian on YouTube kept mocking people’s experiences, including women’s. He mocked a journalist from the Guardian who claimed that she was experiencing emotional abuse and are being dismissed. The comedian mocked her by claiming that she and all those other “white journalists” are making it up just to justify their “bad behavior”. I won’t specify what video I saw it from since I don’t want any more arguments like I did from the previous post I made.

The comedian acted like being called names is all a joke and people like her should not be offended. Then he went off telling her “there are things worse off than you” and goes to list the people that are deemed worse off, including ironically “not subscribing to my channel”. Narcissistic much? Then he twisted what she claimed was the definition of an insult, into what HIS version of the definition of an insult (namely those who use it are “trying to punch up from racism/etc.”). Then he yelled at her that she needs to take a joke, along with calling her the c word.

That sort of behavior people like him are displaying is disgusting and at one point I tried calling them out for it. Unfortunately, I got bullied and told that I should not be calling people toxic and narcissists, all while the same exact people kept calling me toxic and a narcissist. Hypocrisy at its finest. As for me, people laughed at my experiences of emotional abuse, proceeded to call me names, and bragged about how they were treated worse than me. For example “I’ve been beaten up by gangs and been called (insert offensive slur here), now go ahead and tell me how you’ve been called (insert not-so offensive slur here)”. I was also told “leave that to those who ARE truly oppressed!”.

Eventually they started stalking and harassing me and kept inciting passive-aggressive actions to get me “cancelled” and kicked out such as blocking and reporting me to the moderators. This was from a different forum I will not refer to and I had to close my account TWICE because of this. This was not the first time. The first time I was harassed over explaining my experiences with a difficult owner at a store and they accused me of being a pervert by assuming I was watching him change, when I never said that in the first place. They accused me of lying when they were the ones making up rumors about me.

It was a painful experience I had to go through, but many treated it like I was upset over a picnic on a sunny day. Anyone else like to discuss their experiences? And be nice about it.
 
PTSDintheAsylum said:
It was a painful experience I had to go through,
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Dear PTSDintheAsylum,

Comedians literally make their living making fun of others, often in very unkind ways, so I won’t support these mean people by watching their videos.

People are often more unkind on the internet in general than they would ever think to be face to face.

Many of these people would never think to yell at someone on the street, but they will yell at a stranger on the internet because they believe they can do it without real repercussions or consequences, not realizing Almighty Father is a witness.

All we can do many times is avoid these mean people, groups and places and go somewhere else less stressful and more friendly on the internet.

These behaviors say something of the lack of understanding of our Lord Jesus Christ and His Commandment, “… You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

God bless you sister.
 
I wouldn't watch mean you tube videos either.

I like comedy but it has to be a good humour kind. Not mean spirited.

I think most people have at some point been bullied/harassed/teased in their lives. Not a nice thing to happen to anyone. You can't say anyone is better or worse than anyone else because we all have feelings that can be hurt. We are human.

Jesus had a hard time, he was flogged, beaten, mocked and crucified. He can empathise totally. He died for us though, and God loved us while we were still sinners. Lets pray that everyone can be forgiven, and know His forgiveness.
 
People hate being called out.
They generally feel attacked and so go automatically on the defence or offense I’ve learned in my experience.

But yeh I did once and it depressed the person so much I vowed never to do it again.

I’m currently trying to put a Grievance together at work for my manager without coming across as blaming the people in question so I can change the situation for the better.

It generally starts with how I feel about the situation I’m in.
Hope that helps.
Praying you come to some understanding and in all this as I too get angry with the world and it’s stupid system/ culture.

🙏
 
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Hi PTSDintheAsylum
We will always come across answers like thay. As Via said most do not realise hiw much it hurts the person they are talking to. Others just do not know what to say, and yet others have not learned empathy.

Jesus knows what each person is going through. He understands, and He cares and loves You. Talk to Him and He will help you.

God Bless You always PTSDintheAsylum
 
PTSDintheAsylum said:
I’ve seen where a comedian on YouTube kept mocking people’s experiences, including women’s. He mocked a journalist from the Guardian who claimed that she was experiencing emotional abuse and are being dismissed. The comedian mocked her by claiming that she and all those other “white journalists” are making it up just to justify their “bad behavior”. I won’t specify what video I saw it from since I don’t want any more arguments like I did from the previous post I made.

The comedian acted like being called names is all a joke and people like her should not be offended. Then he went off telling her “there are things worse off than you” and goes to list the people that are deemed worse off, including ironically “not subscribing to my channel”. Narcissistic much? Then he twisted what she claimed was the definition of an insult, into what HIS version of the definition of an insult (namely those who use it are “trying to punch up from racism/etc.”). Then he yelled at her that she needs to take a joke, along with calling her the c word.

That sort of behavior people like him are displaying is disgusting and at one point I tried calling them out for it. Unfortunately, I got bullied and told that I should not be calling people toxic and narcissists, all while the same exact people kept calling me toxic and a narcissist. Hypocrisy at its finest. As for me, people laughed at my experiences of emotional abuse, proceeded to call me names, and bragged about how they were treated worse than me. For example “I’ve been beaten up by gangs and been called (insert offensive slur here), now go ahead and tell me how you’ve been called (insert not-so offensive slur here)”. I was also told “leave that to those who ARE truly oppressed!”.

Eventually they started stalking and harassing me and kept inciting passive-aggressive actions to get me “cancelled” and kicked out such as blocking and reporting me to the moderators. This was from a different forum I will not refer to and I had to close my account TWICE because of this. This was not the first time. The first time I was harassed over explaining my experiences with a difficult owner at a store and they accused me of being a pervert by assuming I was watching him change, when I never said that in the first place. They accused me of lying when they were the ones making up rumors about me.

It was a painful experience I had to go through, but many treated it like I was upset over a picnic on a sunny day. Anyone else like to discuss their experiences? And be nice about it.
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Speaking of passive agressive...........I went to my barber last week. When I sat down I told him to make me pretty.
He said.........see this comb, it is not a magic wand!;)
 
Via dolarossa said:
People hate being called out.
They generally feel attacked and so go automatically on the defence or offense I’ve learned in my experience.

But yeh I did once and it depressed the person so much I vowed never to do it again.

I’m currently trying to put a Grievance together at work for my manager without coming across as blaming the people in question so I can change the situation for the better.

It generally starts with how I feel about the situation I’m in.
Hope that helps.
Praying you come to some understanding and in all this as I too get angry with the world and it’s stupid system/ culture.

🙏
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Speaking of people depressing others..........I went to the Doctor last week about the pain in my back. He took and X-Ray and said that there was not anything he could do for me. I told him that I would like a SECOND OPINION! He said, OK.....Your ugly tooo!
 
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Speaking of people depressing others..........I went to the Doctor last week about the pain in my back. He took and X-Ray and said that there was not anything he could do for me. I told him that I would like a SECOND OPINION! He said, OK.....Your ugly tooo!
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That’s sad.
 
PTSDintheAsylum said:
I’ve seen where a comedian on YouTube kept mocking people’s experiences, including women’s. He mocked a journalist from the Guardian who claimed that she was experiencing emotional abuse and are being dismissed. The comedian mocked her by claiming that she and all those other “white journalists” are making it up just to justify their “bad behavior”. I won’t specify what video I saw it from since I don’t want any more arguments like I did from the previous post I made.

The comedian acted like being called names is all a joke and people like her should not be offended. Then he went off telling her “there are things worse off than you” and goes to list the people that are deemed worse off, including ironically “not subscribing to my channel”. Narcissistic much? Then he twisted what she claimed was the definition of an insult, into what HIS version of the definition of an insult (namely those who use it are “trying to punch up from racism/etc.”). Then he yelled at her that she needs to take a joke, along with calling her the c word.

That sort of behavior people like him are displaying is disgusting and at one point I tried calling them out for it. Unfortunately, I got bullied and told that I should not be calling people toxic and narcissists, all while the same exact people kept calling me toxic and a narcissist. Hypocrisy at its finest. As for me, people laughed at my experiences of emotional abuse, proceeded to call me names, and bragged about how they were treated worse than me. For example “I’ve been beaten up by gangs and been called (insert offensive slur here), now go ahead and tell me how you’ve been called (insert not-so offensive slur here)”. I was also told “leave that to those who ARE truly oppressed!”.

Eventually they started stalking and harassing me and kept inciting passive-aggressive actions to get me “cancelled” and kicked out such as blocking and reporting me to the moderators. This was from a different forum I will not refer to and I had to close my account TWICE because of this. This was not the first time. The first time I was harassed over explaining my experiences with a difficult owner at a store and they accused me of being a pervert by assuming I was watching him change, when I never said that in the first place. They accused me of lying when they were the ones making up rumors about me.

It was a painful experience I had to go through, but many treated it like I was upset over a picnic on a sunny day. Anyone else like to discuss their experiences? And be nice about it.
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I would recommend that you not engage with any posters who have aggressive responses to your posts. Post one time and move on unless there are friendly people there. There are sooooo many people looking to ruin somebody's day on those comment boards. Chances are that those posters are just teenagers angry about, well, who knows what. Don't give them any of your time or energy. Use that time doing what Philippians 4:8 says:

Philippians 4:8​


8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
 
As they used to say back on Usenet, "Don't feed the trolls." ;)

People on the Internet can be very mean. They say things online they would never say in person. It's like the racist who hates ethnic group XYZ yet has never known anyone of XYZ and when he finally meets someone of that group says, "you're alright, not at all like the others..."

Truth is most people who "hate" each other online would probably get along fairly well in person if they were to ever actually meet, it's just we stick to our silo's and allow the echo chamber to grow.

Knowing this, stay away from toxic people. You won't change them but it's possible, just maybe, that something you say or do today may be remembered years from now so don't give up on anyone either.
 
LearningToLetGo said:
As they used to say back on Usenet, "Don't feed the trolls." ;)

People on the Internet can be very mean. They say things online they would never say in person. It's like the racist who hates ethnic group XYZ yet has never known anyone of XYZ and when he finally meets someone of that group says, "you're alright, not at all like the others..."

Truth is most people who "hate" each other online would probably get along fairly well in person if they were to ever actually meet, it's just we stick to our silo's and allow the echo chamber to grow.

Knowing this, stay away from toxic people. You won't change them but it's possible, just maybe, that something you say or do today may be remembered years from now so don't give up on anyone either.
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Good stuff!
 
blueskies said:
Dear PTSDintheAsylum,

Comedians literally make their living making fun of others, often in very unkind ways, so I won’t support these mean people by watching their videos.

People are often more unkind on the internet in general than they would ever think to be face to face.

Many of these people would never think to yell at someone on the street, but they will yell at a stranger on the internet because they believe they can do it without real repercussions or consequences, not realizing Almighty Father is a witness.

All we can do many times is avoid these mean people, groups and places and go somewhere else less stressful and more friendly on the internet.

These behaviors say something of the lack of understanding of our Lord Jesus Christ and His Commandment, “… You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

God bless you sister.
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Thank you. I’ve also seen in the news where another comedian was gaslighting an anchorwoman because she was a feminist, he was pressuring her to quit the job because he accuses her of being miserable, and that women aren’t capable of having jobs because they’re too emotional.

He gave the enjoyment of watching her tremble in anger and kept on insulting her to the point of mentioning she was a mother of kids and that she needed a man to take her place. The commenters replied that the anchorwoman was being hysterical and that the comedian was speaking the truth. Others laughed their heads off and claimed that she’d be so miserable that she wouldn’t want to work again.
 
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