Why has it taken several years to find a place to plug in?That brings up something I have experienced far more than I care to think about.
My wife and I are looking for a place of fellowship and have been for several years now. Because we haven't found one we are labeled as 'malcontent' (to use your word) and constantly reminded that "no church is perfect". Magically, once we are so labeled or admonished, anything else we have to say on the issue is completely ignored. After all, that is far easier than admitting the possibility that there just possibly might be something wrong with the church or even with many churches.
To say that all the churches you have checked out in several years were not good enough seems a bit strange.
Why go through all this when simply committing this to prayer and be Willing to go anywhere God sends you and Obedient to stay there no matter what would solve the entire situation......