Hey, all.
As some of you remember, I fought for my previous wife's life for two month in the hospital before she passed in late October.
I have since found another love with whom I will have a ceremonial marriage on the 24th of this month, officiated by Bobinfaith in St. Louis, Missouri.
What's been interesting in this journey are all the armchair experts on psychology who believe that there should be a looooong period of mourning and healing before launching out to find another. Others think that finding another love like this is evidence of my not having loved my previous wife as I should...
My response to that was to ask some men to whom I have made myself accountable, as to if there is some textbook time duration for mourning before moving on with life. Not one of them could think of any such teaching or demand, but the self-made experts continue with their litany of tirades, none of whom have ever walked in my shoes. I mourned every day for two months as she lay there dying. I was a burned out shell by the end, and putting her remains in the ground was a finality for which no human has any power to reverse.
So, as a man judged by inferior-by-choice humans, I happily announce this marriage to Anna, who is also a widow. She did not want a divorcee, as was also my thoughts and feeling as well.
Folks, divorce and widowhood are not at all the same thing. Some widows and widowers are able to live on without finding another, and that's great, but I am not such a man. Anna told me just this morning how powerfully my presence in her life had changed her just from us talking on the phone, and the effect her change had upon others in the her daughter's house where she was living before we ever even met face to face. People, that's God working through me, not anything of which I can boast about myself. It is His Life being lived through me to others, and Anna's to others.
My encouragement to you all: Be that conduit through which the Lord can reach the lives of others around you. Be that light and salt to which the Lord has called all of us who are in Him.
Blessings to you all.
Love you all.
MM
As some of you remember, I fought for my previous wife's life for two month in the hospital before she passed in late October.
I have since found another love with whom I will have a ceremonial marriage on the 24th of this month, officiated by Bobinfaith in St. Louis, Missouri.
What's been interesting in this journey are all the armchair experts on psychology who believe that there should be a looooong period of mourning and healing before launching out to find another. Others think that finding another love like this is evidence of my not having loved my previous wife as I should...
My response to that was to ask some men to whom I have made myself accountable, as to if there is some textbook time duration for mourning before moving on with life. Not one of them could think of any such teaching or demand, but the self-made experts continue with their litany of tirades, none of whom have ever walked in my shoes. I mourned every day for two months as she lay there dying. I was a burned out shell by the end, and putting her remains in the ground was a finality for which no human has any power to reverse.
So, as a man judged by inferior-by-choice humans, I happily announce this marriage to Anna, who is also a widow. She did not want a divorcee, as was also my thoughts and feeling as well.
Folks, divorce and widowhood are not at all the same thing. Some widows and widowers are able to live on without finding another, and that's great, but I am not such a man. Anna told me just this morning how powerfully my presence in her life had changed her just from us talking on the phone, and the effect her change had upon others in the her daughter's house where she was living before we ever even met face to face. People, that's God working through me, not anything of which I can boast about myself. It is His Life being lived through me to others, and Anna's to others.
My encouragement to you all: Be that conduit through which the Lord can reach the lives of others around you. Be that light and salt to which the Lord has called all of us who are in Him.
Blessings to you all.
Love you all.
MM