Thank you Major! You're more than welcome to interject and I appreciate the "down to earth/literal" explanation". Something I greatly enjoy.

Could you provide me a resource where it states what you mentioned (what I quoted)?
In his commentary on Romans (where Paul quotes this Malachi passage in Romans 9:13) Leon Morris cites examples where
hate clearly seems to mean something like
“loved less”. Yet he agrees with Calvin, and McHenry and Gill's idea that the real thought here is much more like
“accepted” and “rejected” more than it is like our understanding of the terms “loved” and “hated.”
Gen. 29:31-33
And when the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren. And Leah conceived, and bore a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the LORD has looked on my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me. And she conceived again, and bore a son; and said, Because the LORD has heard I was hated, he has therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon
Deuteronomy 21:15
King James Version (KJV)
15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated
Matthew 6:24
King James Version (KJV)
24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.
Luke 14:26
King James Version (KJV)
26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
Remember the real context involved in the story of Jacob & Esau is election, not individual salvation. The reason why election is brought up here is not to exclude, but to comfort and reassure.
“A woman once said to Mr. Spurgeon, ‘I cannot understand why God should say that He hated Esau.’ ‘That,’ Spurgeon replied, ‘is not my difficulty, madam. My trouble is to understand how God could love Jacob.’”
(William Newell in his commentary on Romans)
“Malachi is not speaking of the predestination of the one brother and reprobation of the other; he is contrasting the histories of the two peoples represented by them . . . Both nations sinned; both are punished; but Israel by God’s free mercy was forgiven and restored, while Edom was left in the misery which it had brought upon itself by its own iniquity.” ( quoted from...Pulpit)
I hope this is enough resources for you Tink and thanks for asking.