Truely a gift from God
I totally understand people struggling with the issue of children as gifts from God. I come from a family who worked hard to give me a good education and expected me to follow a promising career. However, this was not
God's plan for me... He found me a wonderful man and we got married just before I turned 21 (in January) and we had our first boy in November, I fell pregnant again a year later and had another boy. Well, we were only planning on two, but decided not to 'seal the deal'
in case we regretted it 5- 10 years down the track and wanted then to try for a girl... 9 MONTHS LATER... yes, you guessed it! I was pregnant again! The hardest part was that just after I found out my sister-in-law lost her new born baby (we new he had serious medical problems before he was born). I felt terrible being there when he died a few hours after birth and attending the funeral and, most of all, telling her we were having another baby. She is a truly wonderful person who loves the Lord and though I know it must have been very hard for her to see us have our 3rd boy last October she was soooo wonderful to us.
There have been many many times I wondered why God chose this path for us. It's not that I don't absolutely love my kids and raising them and making a home for my family because it is the
most wonderful thing I have ever done with my life and they are such a wonderful, wonderful blessing to me. It's the fact that my extended family don't really understand why I didn't put of kids to focus on a career... to be earning at least as much as my husband (they seem to like both partners having equal power and identical responsibilities). I don't agree with them but it still doesn't make life easy sometimes. In spite of all the challenges and difficulties of having kids, my family is God's most precious gift to me (aside from salvation) and they have given me a greater understanding of God's love.
Not everyone, however, is meant to have kids (I feel); I think that is personal to each person and definitely something to pray about. I think the most important thing is to be ready to go where God is leading and do what God is asking us to do (always verifying this through the Bible). Don't feel bad about not having kids... God can change that... our desires and situations can change.
I love this passage...
Psalm 127:3-5 (NKJV)
3 Behold, children are
a heritage from the LORD,
The fruit of the womb is
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
the children of oneâ€™s youth.
5 Happy is
the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
God loves you more than you can imagine and you need to trust Him to direct your life.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
Hope this helps!