OK, I love this post. I have three Girls and have told them many times that they should always seek and pray for their own discernment and not just trust someone else. I have mentors and friends who I go to and trust very much, but as I feel that you mention, many of us have accepted things as truth or black and white when there was something else to the story. I was very specific, as my girls were young then, that it is ok and even expected to verify the things that I tell them.
I have found that on most of the Parables Christ gave us I find something new in them each time I study them. This is especially true for the parable of the prodigal son. As an example, for most of my life I thought the prodigal son was the sinner and the son who stayed was the good son. In recent years I almost feel more sorrow for the son who stays, he is near to the father and still he has failed to understand and love him.
What I would really like to share is one where I feel like I failed, but I still came away with an epiphany I have been able to share with others. I used to have a favorite kolache shop where I would stop for breakfast on the way to work. The shop was right across the street from a Christian Academy. One day while I was waiting on my food I overheard two teenagers discussing the Parable of the Vineyard workers Matt 20 : 1-16.
What I heard was one teen explaining to the other that the whole parable was explaining that the vineyard master would have a hard time getting workers to come back and work a full day. He further explained to his friend that the all day workers would feel shafted because they were paid the same as those that came late in the day and wouldn't come back; or that many workers would only work late in the day knowing they would get the same wage.
I admit, until that very moment, I never understood that parable at all. It wasn't until I heard this young man explain it on a purely earthly level that I received my personal understanding of this parable. Now I will caveat that I believe the parables are such living statements that they speak God's truth in different ways depending on your current life point of view. I think this can be seen as Jews and Gentiles, life long believers and new believers (especially those late in life), and many other points of view. The core truths I picked up that day is that the vineyard is Earth or Israel; I think there is room for debate here but definitely it is this plane of existence and not Heaven. The workers are God's people, as I mentioned earlier this could be Jews and gentiles but I think the parable works in many discussions. The reward is God's grace. I would keep going but I would do my energizer bunny impression.
The point is, I had read and heard that parable tens if not hundreds of times and I did not understand it. People had tried to explain it to me many times and nothing they said made sense. In that moment, hearing it clearly explained wrong, I suddenly had an epiphany giving me a glimpse of the meaning of that parable.
Where did I fail? I so wanted to go over to these teens and join their conversation and steer them to a better understanding. I don't know them so it seemed awkward, and I was running late for work; so I left and never talked to them. I hope someone explained it to them. Whether they have been instructed on this since then or not, their conversation was a real blessing to me as it opened my eyes to an amazing message from Christ our Lord.
In Christ,
Heisonfirst