Jadeow1981
Here is some food for thought.
First I do Not know what God has placed in your heart so I am only replying from what you have written.
Maybe a new thread might be in order but for now......you can chew on this.
If God is working in you to be reconciled with your now X Husband then keeping the guy in your life may not be a wise choice.
1. If you are going to trust God by Faith for this then you need to trust Him in your actions and this case life.
.....A... keeping a guy on the hook for just in case it does not happen is Not True Faith or total trust.
.....B.. It won't look good unto the now X husband hanging onto the new guy.
.....C. . It won't be good for the new guy to go until you either remarry or give up.
Now then Please, Please be Totally Sure God is indeed calling you to reconciliation. I say this because it is easy , oh far too easy to feel or believe that God is indeed placing this desire in you.
Now I am Not in any way shape or form saying or claiming God is or is not behind this. I am simply saying to seek God honestly and be sure it is He who is placing this in your heart and if it is........then go forward by Faith and don't give up.
Lord God I lift my sister up to you and I (we) pray according to your word James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
According to your word Father you hear our prayer and it is always yes and amen according to your will so we thank you in Jesus name for the answer and clear direction . In The name above all names, the name of Jesus we say amen and amen.
Blessings
FCJ