We must remember as well that for Christians the Lord loved us even when we were unlovable...
'My song is love unknown,
My Savior's love to me,
Love to the loveless shown
That I might lovely be.'
Good point! I should start living that more!
We must remember as well that for Christians the Lord loved us even when we were unlovable...
'My song is love unknown,
My Savior's love to me,
Love to the loveless shown
That I might lovely be.'
Good point! I should start living that more!
I know that for me, my mom says that I don't honor thy father and mother because I don't call her every day.
My wife prefers that I don't call her every day since there are lots of negative things that my mom ends up saying during the course of our talks and that my wife feels that a grown-up man doesn't need to be calling his mother every day. That I was supposed to leave her and cleave to my wife.
Kinda stuck between the two of them. I have tried to explain to my mom, that I don't need to call her every day and that her negative attitude isn't the greatest. She just ignores what I say, says that she did it with my grandmother and that I will regret it when she dies.
So I just pray for her.
I am not a perfect Christian. And there's one thing n my life that I am terrible at. Honoring my father.
I have always had a great relationship with my mother. She wasn't around a lot growing up because she was always working. But she has sacrificed a lot for my sister and me and I am grateful for a mother like her. She is very graceful and (almost annoyingly!) selfless to the point where she would always eat last after cooking or never buying herself that one designer bag she has been eyeing. She taught me to involve God in my life and let Jesus in my heart.
My father on the other hand is not a very Christian man. I have experienced domestic violence in my home) towards my mother up until I was about 14. It happened maybe once every two years but it happened and it was very traumatic. That's why I grew up to be a very independent and strong woman. I don't take crap from anyone. If I feel threatened (with or without violence), I always find my way out of the situation. Thus I am very protective of the people I love and even my sister who is 8 years older than me.
So yeah, my point is that even though domestic violence hasn't occurred in a long time, he still has his bad moments where he is obviously looking for a quarrel. I believe he has psychological problems.
I feel bad for not honoring my father. But I cannot love this man. I know I wouldn't be here without him,but he is not a man to look up to. I would go as far and say that I could hardly cry if he ever passed. That's harsh. That's not kind, but I can't help what I feel for this man. I can't force myself to see this man as a loving and caring father. He is none of that. He is only my biological, earthly father.
My problem is that even the 10 commandments state that one should honor one's father and mother. I know my behavior is not God's will.
Do you have experience with that? Have you ever had trouble with a parent? I'm not talking the fits you threw when you were a teenager, I mean situations that made you question your relationship to a parent.
Everytime I see your photo I get the feeling that you are a very warm person, I am just saying thats all.I am not a perfect Christian. And there's one thing n my life that I am terrible at. Honoring my father.
I have always had a great relationship with my mother. She wasn't around a lot growing up because she was always working. But she has sacrificed a lot for my sister and me and I am grateful for a mother like her. She is very graceful and (almost annoyingly!) selfless to the point where she would always eat last after cooking or never buying herself that one designer bag she has been eyeing. She taught me to involve God in my life and let Jesus in my heart.
My father on the other hand is not a very Christian man. I have experienced domestic violence in my home) towards my mother up until I was about 14. It happened maybe once every two years but it happened and it was very traumatic. That's why I grew up to be a very independent and strong woman. I don't take crap from anyone. If I feel threatened (with or without violence), I always find my way out of the situation. Thus I am very protective of the people I love and even my sister who is 8 years older than me.
So yeah, my point is that even though domestic violence hasn't occurred in a long time, he still has his bad moments where he is obviously looking for a quarrel. I believe he has psychological problems.
I feel bad for not honoring my father. But I cannot love this man. I know I wouldn't be here without him,but he is not a man to look up to. I would go as far and say that I could hardly cry if he ever passed. That's harsh. That's not kind, but I can't help what I feel for this man. I can't force myself to see this man as a loving and caring father. He is none of that. He is only my biological, earthly father.
My problem is that even the 10 commandments state that one should honor one's father and mother. I know my behavior is not God's will.
Do you have experience with that? Have you ever had trouble with a parent? I'm not talking the fits you threw when you were a teenager, I mean situations that made you question your relationship to a parent.
just set a certain day of the week to give her a call that way she doesn't feel cut off, if possible. I do know how you feel. my husbands mom gets upset if he pays more attention to me instead of her. she disrespects him, treats him like he is too young to understand things sometimes, and tells him what to do and how to go about things in life. its hard to honor someone who will not be honorable. I know we are to love, honor, and respect even in times when the person is less than. just do not let it come between you and your wife. do you have a sister? its usually girls who call their mothers everyday, if they are close to them. keep praying for her.
I was beaten up by my pops regularly until age 26-27? The worst feeling ever. I'd rather get punched by mike Tyson than my dad because of the emotional pain. He's dead now and I've had a decade plus years away from it all. Honoring your parents is not obeying them especially when they're nut jobs. Honoring means looking after them when they turn docile and can't take care of themselves. Just try and realize a point about forgiveness, it requires suffering the debt created by your father. He owes you and your family a debt that cannot be paid with money but can only be paid with humility and sincere apology. If he is unwilling to pay that debt then you and your mom have been paying that debt by bearing the suffering caused by it. To truly forgive him you must say "I will pay that debt and I forgive you". That means never bringing it up again with mom or anyone else. That is true forgiveness. It's what Christ did for you and me, he bore our debt, he said I will forgive you. I didn't understand this when my dad was alive and thus never really showed him forgiveness. You still have to be careful of your dad tho even if you choose to forgive him. Stand up to him on the basis of your relationship with Jesus Christ and do not allow him to lead you astray.I am not a perfect Christian. And there's one thing n my life that I am terrible at. Honoring my father.
I have always had a great relationship with my mother. She wasn't around a lot growing up because she was always working. But she has sacrificed a lot for my sister and me and I am grateful for a mother like her. She is very graceful and (almost annoyingly!) selfless to the point where she would always eat last after cooking or never buying herself that one designer bag she has been eyeing. She taught me to involve God in my life and let Jesus in my heart.
My father on the other hand is not a very Christian man. I have experienced domestic violence in my home) towards my mother up until I was about 14. It happened maybe once every two years but it happened and it was very traumatic. That's why I grew up to be a very independent and strong woman. I don't take crap from anyone. If I feel threatened (with or without violence), I always find my way out of the situation. Thus I am very protective of the people I love and even my sister who is 8 years older than me.
So yeah, my point is that even though domestic violence hasn't occurred in a long time, he still has his bad moments where he is obviously looking for a quarrel. I believe he has psychological problems.
I feel bad for not honoring my father. But I cannot love this man. I know I wouldn't be here without him,but he is not a man to look up to. I would go as far and say that I could hardly cry if he ever passed. That's harsh. That's not kind, but I can't help what I feel for this man. I can't force myself to see this man as a loving and caring father. He is none of that. He is only my biological, earthly father.
My problem is that even the 10 commandments state that one should honor one's father and mother. I know my behavior is not God's will.
Do you have experience with that? Have you ever had trouble with a parent? I'm not talking the fits you threw when you were a teenager, I mean situations that made you question your relationship to a parent.