How can I forgive?...
Well hello everyone..I am kinda confused..
See,I just started school about a month back,and I liked this catholic guy. He was nice & caring.At first,I was hesitant about telling him,so I told the girls (about two of them,both christians) in my clique about it.Naturally,the others (there were 5 girls,including me) in the clique heard about it.
Well,the guy in question is also part of the clique,but he didn't know about it.All he knew was that I liked a guy.& the girls in the group were rather supportive (saying he is a nice guy & all),and encouraged me to let him know how I feel.Whenever we go out together,they would make 'couple jokes' directed at me & the guy.
Soon,he asked me about the guy that I liked.I told him I was unsure,but he knew the guy.In the end,he found out about me,and told me that he was unsure if he liked me in that way,and that he needed more time to think about it,as it was a huge decision.I respected that,but did not anticipate what would come next.
The following day,he smsed me to say that he doesn't like me,but will continue to treat me as a good friend.But at the same time,I found out that he dated one of the girls in the clique that I was rather close to,and first confided in.
So now,although they still take me as a friend,I feel rather betrayed & angry.I felt like I no longer belonged in the clique,as the girls formed another clique,and I was excluded.
Another issue is that I had once brought the catholic guy for a Life Meeting (short service)but he said that it was too different a system for him,and he did not turn up for subsequent meetings.However,as far as I know (through the account of his current gf & his blog posts),he has now 'converted' to christianity,and is even considering getting baptized again.
Well I know I should be happy for him (and them),but I just can't seem to let go & forgive him.Any idea what I can do to help myself come to terms with it & forgive him?
Well hello everyone..I am kinda confused..
See,I just started school about a month back,and I liked this catholic guy. He was nice & caring.At first,I was hesitant about telling him,so I told the girls (about two of them,both christians) in my clique about it.Naturally,the others (there were 5 girls,including me) in the clique heard about it.
Well,the guy in question is also part of the clique,but he didn't know about it.All he knew was that I liked a guy.& the girls in the group were rather supportive (saying he is a nice guy & all),and encouraged me to let him know how I feel.Whenever we go out together,they would make 'couple jokes' directed at me & the guy.
Soon,he asked me about the guy that I liked.I told him I was unsure,but he knew the guy.In the end,he found out about me,and told me that he was unsure if he liked me in that way,and that he needed more time to think about it,as it was a huge decision.I respected that,but did not anticipate what would come next.
The following day,he smsed me to say that he doesn't like me,but will continue to treat me as a good friend.But at the same time,I found out that he dated one of the girls in the clique that I was rather close to,and first confided in.
So now,although they still take me as a friend,I feel rather betrayed & angry.I felt like I no longer belonged in the clique,as the girls formed another clique,and I was excluded.
Another issue is that I had once brought the catholic guy for a Life Meeting (short service)but he said that it was too different a system for him,and he did not turn up for subsequent meetings.However,as far as I know (through the account of his current gf & his blog posts),he has now 'converted' to christianity,and is even considering getting baptized again.
Well I know I should be happy for him (and them),but I just can't seem to let go & forgive him.Any idea what I can do to help myself come to terms with it & forgive him?