Yep, there it is.... I understand you fear them caring so much about you that they might swarm you with love, but such is the price we pay being a family member.
In my home is where MY family is and not in the congregation.
If a particular congregation infers (as I believe you have just done) that if you are a Christian, you must consider the congregation to be family; then if you don't consider the congregation to be family, how can you really be a Christian? It's the sort of situation unfortunate folks like me choose to avoid. And who then fills the pews? Those willing and able to consider others in the congregation as family.
I expect the majority of the readers here will think, "Of course we are family. That's what Christianity is!" I am probably in the wrong place being here, too.