Love is the most beautiful thing there is and those who are saved have the greatest blessing in sharing it. 1 John 4:8: "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." We know the qualities of love from 1 Corinthian's 13:4-8:
"for zeal for your house consumes me, and the insults of those who insult you fall on me" (Psalms 69:9).I believe the turning of the tables as more righteous anger. I do agree we need to show more love. I am at fault on this as well.