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I am on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Pinterest used to be on Myspace. But am not on Instagram or Snap Chat and used to be on Flickr. But really have had all of it 95% positive. You have to try to ignore the negative. And just ask what Jesus would do? As sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve and offend people. And do the best to apologize and vice versa. We are to turn the other cheek and respond nicely and question people politely. But not attack that person despite differences. It is called agree to disagree!
 

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I am on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Pinterest used to be on Myspace. But am not on Instagram or Snap Chat and used to be on Flickr. But really have had all of it 95% positive. You have to try to ignore the negative. And just ask what Jesus would do? As sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve and offend people. And do the best to apologize and vice versa. We are to turn the other cheek and respond nicely and question people politely. But not attack that person despite differences. It is called agree to disagree!
Thank you, everyone! This topic has so many good posts for thought.

Since the invention of postal mail, the telegraph, telephone, television to our electronic age today, it all was and has been meant for good. The bad guys would also find a way in.

My concern has been more of the evolvement in the privilege of verbal and written communication in
freedom of speech, for most countries in these times.
Freedom of speech, aside from vulgar slander or cursing, applies to citizens who has the right to make a statement, even if it doesn't support our agendas, disrespects what we support, including our faith. Freedom of speech protects from censorship. In America this is our 1st amendment right.

However, since the beginning of Genesis (
Spirit of God and verbal) this was all meant for good, but sin found its way in, too.

As a Christian, man of God, I struggle with the brokeness of social media, not the technology but the communication. I feel our verbal and written communication in social media has not respected the privilege but abuse our freedom of speech.

Ephesians 4:29,
29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

This teaching is applied to the believer but also in our standard Christian conduct for the unbeliever, or the unreached.

I'm encouraged by JPPT1974 who writes we have to try to ignore the negative. To me this means that we should be careful becoming reactive and throwing darts and arrows, but instead relying on Jesus how to receive negativity despite differences. Starting with myself, I include my confession to the Lord daily to help me guard my tongue.

At the same time, aren't we also to stand up, in love, against the decline of moral fiber in our social media?

God bless
you and your families.
 
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I am on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Pinterest used to be on Myspace. But am not on Instagram or Snap Chat and used to be on Flickr. But really have had all of it 95% positive. You have to try to ignore the negative. And just ask what Jesus would do? As sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve and offend people. And do the best to apologize and vice versa. We are to turn the other cheek and respond nicely and question people politely. But not attack that person despite differences. It is called agree to disagree!
Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed ????
 
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Thank you, everyone! This topic has so many good posts for thought.

Since the invention of postal mail, the telegraph, telephone, television to our electronic age today, it all was and has been meant for good. The bad guys would also find a way in.

My concern has been more of the evolvement in the privilege of verbal and written communication in
freedom of speech, for most countries in these times.
Freedom of speech, aside from vulgar slander or cursing, applies to citizens who has the right to make a statement, even if it doesn't support our agendas, disrespects what we support, including our faith. Freedom of speech protects from censorship. In America this is our 1st amendment right.

However, since the beginning of Genesis (
Spirit of God and verbal) this was all meant for good, but sin found its way in, too.

As a Christian, man of God, I struggle with the brokeness of social media, not the technology but the communication. I feel our verbal and written communication in social media has not respected the privilege but abuse our freedom of speech.

Ephesians 4:29,
29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

This teaching is applied to the believer but also in our standard Christian conduct for the unbeliever, or the unreached.

I'm encouraged by JPPT1974 who writes we have to try to ignore the negative. To me this means that we should be careful becoming reactive and throwing darts and arrows, but instead relying on Jesus how to receive negativity despite differences. Starting with myself, I include my confession to the Lord daily to help me guard my tongue.

At the same time, aren't we also to stand up, in love, against the decline of moral fiber in our social media?

God bless
you and your families.
Agreed!

You said...…..
"I feel our verbal and written communication in social media has not respected the privilege but abuse our freedom of speech. "

AMEN!


My experience in social media up to and even including this very web site, is that the great majority of people use the anonymity of a computer or telephone screen to be bullies and act rude and obnoxious.

By that I mean and it is really easy to see, people say things to others over a text line or computer forum that they would never say to someone's face.
The anomality gives some people power that they actually do not have in real life.

Because people can hide behind a computer/telephone screen they can say and do all kinds of things without fear of someone doing something physical to them which would happen in a face to face conversation.
 
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I use social media on Facebook and have chosen not to be on Twitter or any other social media as such unless we include the social part of the forum.

In a nutshell, though, I think that social media should be just that...'social media', not a place to constantly share hate and/or political rhetoric. And I especially dislike it when post after post comes with the implication that we should 'share if we care' kind of thing. Really, if you don't share does that make it seem as if you don't care? It can become endless if we shared everything we cared about.

At it's best Facebook, like any social media, can be a tool to connect friends and families by sharing information and responses to photos and events. This is especially good if friends and family are distances away. I do feel it can build relationships although it can never take the place of face to face personal contacts.

At it's worst 'social media' includes vulgarity, prejudice, lies, and misinformation and seems to be an extension of abusive remarks given by those who have nothing better to do. Of course, does one even consider that being social at all? Some do obviously.

It is also a place to share love and we all need a daily dose of that even if when we are living alone it sometimes comes from social media contacts. And for those of us who are Christians it can be a tool to share the love of God with others, a place to give and receive encouragement, and sometimes a lot of fun.

Like said earlier it is something that can be good or bad depending on how it is used.
 

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I am on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Pinterest used to be on Myspace. But am not on Instagram or Snap Chat and used to be on Flickr. But really have had all of it 95% positive. You have to try to ignore the negative. And just ask what Jesus would do? As sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve and offend people. And do the best to apologize and vice versa. We are to turn the other cheek and respond nicely and question people politely. But not attack that person despite differences. It is called agree to disagree!
Hello JPPT1974;

Good sharing, and have to agree with you, when we are conscious of offending people in our communication it is humbling to apologize, and respectfully agree to disagree.

Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed ????
lol! I had to chuckle at your response and will say on a lighter note, I personally cannot keep up with having multiple accounts in the fast paced social technology. I'm amazed how fast people can text type on their electronics.

I do find a huge benefit with cell phones, texting and email on my desk top and from studying the book of James it has taught me the work in progree of how I address others in correspondence, texting or posting.

In our pastoral ministries I feel you would agree that we would prefer to communicate in person. Many in the ministry will only text me. I have to bear patience and work with this because I cannot force everyone to communicate the way I do.

God bless you all and your families.
 
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Hello JPPT1974;

Good sharing, and have to agree with you, when we are conscious of offending people in our communication it is humbling to apologize, and respectfully agree to disagree.



lol! I had to chuckle at your response and will say on a lighter note, I personally cannot keep up with having multiple accounts in the fast paced social technology. I'm amazed how fast people can text type on their electronics.

I do find a huge benefit with cell phones, texting and email on my desk top and from studying the book of James it has taught me the work in progree of how I address others in correspondence, texting or posting.

In our pastoral ministries I feel you would agree that we would prefer to communicate in person. Many in the ministry will only text me. I have to bear patience and work with this because I cannot force everyone to communicate the way I do.

God bless you all and your families.
Agreed. I have a personal rule I established years ago when I saw this phenomenon taking place with texting, and phones and computers. I simply do not text at all.

I will only talk with and work with people on a face to face basis. I must be able to see the faces and the reactions to questions asked when counseling is asked for.
 
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'm encouraged by JPPT1974 who writes we have to try to ignore the negative. To me this means that we should be careful becoming reactive and throwing darts and arrows, but instead relying on Jesus how to receive negativity despite differences. Starting with myself, I include my confession to the Lord daily to help me guard my tongue.
bobinfiath and JPPT1974. This is so good and so true. Yes, "ignore the negative." and encourage the positive by being positive ourselves.
 
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Thoughts...I dont live in america so we dont have this amendment about free speech.
So not sure what thats all about...dont really want to get into that debate!

I think as christians when God has us say something He gives us utterance. He gives us the courage to say it. It is better to speak the Word than remain silent.

As for social media thats whats its for to be social...FB was first invented as an electronic way to keep in touch for college grads. It took off and started being rolled out to other colleges/universities. It was only amongst this group at first and then it got big and older people got into and then advertisers. Your friends were the people you wanted to stay in touch with after going your separate ways after graduation. There were other social media at the time like friendster, myspace and copy cats like Linkedin, but the thing about facebook was that it was fun. The Like button was initially just an innocent way to like someone or someones funny comment. It was never meant to be serious. When it added pictures and newsfeeds and messaging thats when it became quite useful for posting events and things. If you want to share you can but people have got to be realistic and know that anything shared online is public.
I dont think you have to share anything you are not willing to and be careful who you accept as friends, dont be friends with people you dont know! I shut down my account at one stage cos the online circle I was in was not healthy for me. But then I went back on and was more careful about the company I had on FB.

With people living in different parts of the world its a handy tool and has its uses. i never got i to linkedin I had a page up for a while but it was really boring and the site itself was too aggressive pushing stuff on you that you didnt want. FB was sometimes like that in its early days but you can learn to deal with it and turn offthe functions you dont want. Dont use twitter or instagram. Personally I dont really like the thought of having random people 'follow' me or following someone whenever they say something but I suppose its useful for some people.

I think blogs are good for self expression, although ive never been a big part of the so-called blogosphere. I dont really use many other social media cos some of the sites are pushy or have overbearing moderators. I was once called up on one called neighbourly for daring to post a personal job ad. I didnt go back after that when got called on the coals for it even though had used the site many times before and got jobs through it. I really hate it when people expect you to be posting every single day on something or constsntly critcise you for saying something. Who has time for that? If someone wants to be a self-appointed busybody thats their problem. Lol. Be an encourager not a complainer.

People seem to blame social media for a lot of things affecting youth but I reckon to be more concerned with violent video games and tv than social media. Violent Video games and tv are more addictive and damaging.

Otherwise I have ZERO TOLERANCE for bullies. On some forums they can be relentless. If someone doesnt like you whether its in real life or online they seem to just want to pick a fight. I dont think that is on. I think that in some cases you need to be firm and others you need to walk away , ignore or just log out. I also dont like to see people picking on others. Thats why theres a report button and an ignore button. I really dont like it when moderators abuse this 'power'

Pray for them that persecute you though!
 
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Thoughts...I dont live in america so we dont have this amendment about free speech.
So not sure what thats all about...dont really want to get into that debate! I think as christians when God has us say something He gives us utterance. He gives us the courage to say it. It is better to speak the Word than remain silent. Otherwise I have ZERO TOLERANCE for bullies. On some forums they can be relentless. If someone doesnt like you whether its in real life or online they seem to just want to pick a fight. I dont think that is on. I think that in some cases you need to be firm and others you need to walk away , ignore or just log out. I also dont like to see people picking on others. Thats why theres a report button and an ignore button. I really dont like it when moderators abuse this 'power' Pray for them that persecute you though!
Hi Lanolin;

Freedom of speech in America allows our freedom of expression, opinion, even if you don't agree with me or insult me. Regardless, every citizen enjoys the amendment of freedom of speech. The character, integrity and moral fiber in the manner we express our freedom of speech is a different issue.

As a believer I ask God daily to guard my tongue when I speak, when I'm writing and including my mind. It's not easy and this is why God gives us the Word, to prepare ourselves to give an answer, to co-xist with others and offer hope in our faith.

1 Peter 3:15, 15 but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,

Ephesians 4:29, 29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

There are some great points in this topic including social media, the way our electronic communication has changed since the internet launched in the late 80's or 90's. But those who serve in social media, especially in the Christian forums should be mindful and ask the Lord for humility and accept correction at any moment, and be teachable in the ministry of people skills.

Young people in these times need constant mentoring on the way we address our elders and the same for elderly (middle age and senior age) who should also be reminded how we speak to young people, and women.

1 Timothy 5:1-2, 1 Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.

This has been the jist of my concerns in these times, how we speak to one another. I don't have the true all answers in this topic which is why I pray daily and get other's views. How can I be an example?

God bless you all.
 
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Ok well theres lots of advice Paul gives to the Ephesians, 4:22-32 esp note be ye kind and tenderhearted!

Conversation with the old man? What's that, and what is the new man? How did you talk before you became a christian and what changed to how you spoke after?
Also Isnt that an interesting word picture, its not being 'nice' or 'polite' its tenderhearted, like your heart is softened, kind of like soft butter. You know you cant spread butter easily when its hard. Plus you have to practically cut it with a knife.

Heres some more read further in the next chapter 5:4-11

Foolish talking! Vain words! If someones spouting nonsense you dont have to agree with them you can reprove them on a thread. Or just ignore them. Shouldnt happen on a christian forum, but you can reprove.

Children naturally interrupt, and many dont have a 'filter'. Actually many adults dont either and I remember having to institute a swear jar for my former boss. Every time he swore it added up till he owed me a meat pie. People that joke around all the time often can be super annoying and arent aware they can be offending...or maybe they joke deliberately to offend/mock. One time I was in conversation with a professed believer, and they used a lot of sarcasm. I had to remind him that I did not see sarcasm as funny, but bitter and hurtful esp to its targets.

God likes it when we praise Him and give glory to Him, so its good we can do this va a christian forum , after all He's listening! On FB you can post scriptures, I used to do that everyday, maybe a habit all of us can get into if we use facebook. I love reading scriputres as encouragement.
 
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