I have tried to get involved in church stuff, but it just seems that people retract from me, then I end up not going to church at all. I don't go to church and I don't want to even try because the same thing will happen. I was rejected by my family and then church families.
Is forgiveness a choice or is it an act of God?You're doing great JCT! I'm VERY proud of you!
I want you to understand something. Forgiveness isn't for the one who attacks, but forgiveness is for the victim. You're a prisoner of the unjust actions of your father. Even if he gave great apologies, you may still hold that venom against him. Forgiveness isn't letting them off the hook, but freeing YOU from that prison. It's VERY hard to do because we don't just want justice, we demand it in our very being. You have to let that go and give it to God to deal with and forgive your father so YOU are free from his affects on you. What are the effects? Anger, just as you said. You can't be free of anger until you forgive him. You're young, but if you don't do this, when you're 45 you could have cancer or some other physical manifestation of this anger.
There was a friend of ours who had been suffering sinus infections for decades. She'd go to the doctor and they could never find anything wrong, but the clogged sinuses. The Lord impress upon me to ask her if she had any issues as a child. She was shocked and wanted to know why. She told me how her mother would beat them and she had to take many of the beatings to protect her younger brother and sister. She HATED her mother with a passion. I told her what I just told you and she hung up on me. She didn't call for three days. Finally she did and was determined to prove her right to hate her mother. She hung up on me again. The next day she called again and explain she couldn't forgive her mother because she was dead. Again I told her it was for her own freedom that she needed to forgive her mother, not to set free her mother. So we prayed and she said "I forgive her." We prayed some more and hung up. She called back the next day and said her sinuses were clear and her migraines were gone! Indeed this is the meaning of the word of God:
John 8:32 (KJV)
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.So if you want to get rid of that anger and grow in the Lord and realize that God died for YOU YOU YOU and find peace, and realize God LOOOOOVES YOU, you have to forgive your father of his actions. God bless brother!
I see what you're saying about the water boiling and exploding. Thanks, that is a good analogy.
I completely understand. When you come to the point of praying for him, then you will have surrendered his actions to God and you forgiven him and you can move on. Listen, a lot of people don't want things because they remind them of something else they really dislike. Our love is cheap. A lot of times we don't really like someone because they remind us of ourselves and because most people don't like themselves, dislike those people. I can't imagine what your parents' experiences are, or why they're acting the way they are, but you need not worry about them any more. Ask the Lord to help you become independent both of them and their actions against you and be free in Christ. If you trust Him, God will help you, I promise you.
It amazes me that some people hear things like your story and still not believe.You're doing great JCT! I'm VERY proud of you!
I want you to understand something. Forgiveness isn't for the one who attacks, but forgiveness is for the victim. You're a prisoner of the unjust actions of your father. Even if he gave great apologies, you may still hold that venom against him. Forgiveness isn't letting them off the hook, but freeing YOU from that prison. It's VERY hard to do because we don't just want justice, we demand it in our very being. You have to let that go and give it to God to deal with and forgive your father so YOU are free from his affects on you. What are the effects? Anger, just as you said. You can't be free of anger until you forgive him. You're young, but if you don't do this, when you're 45 you could have cancer or some other physical manifestation of this anger.
There was a friend of ours who had been suffering sinus infections for decades. She'd go to the doctor and they could never find anything wrong, but the clogged sinuses. The Lord impress upon me to ask her if she had any issues as a child. She was shocked and wanted to know why. She told me how her mother would beat them and she had to take many of the beatings to protect her younger brother and sister. She HATED her mother with a passion. I told her what I just told you and she hung up on me. She didn't call for three days. Finally she did and was determined to prove her right to hate her mother. She hung up on me again. The next day she called again and explain she couldn't forgive her mother because she was dead. Again I told her it was for her own freedom that she needed to forgive her mother, not to set free her mother. So we prayed and she said "I forgive her." We prayed some more and hung up. She called back the next day and said her sinuses were clear and her migraines were gone! Indeed this is the meaning of the word of God:
John 8:32 (KJV)
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.So if you want to get rid of that anger and grow in the Lord and realize that God died for YOU YOU YOU and find peace, and realize God LOOOOOVES YOU, you have to forgive your father of his actions. God bless brother!
That's a great saying!Thanks brother. It takes a willing heart to hear the good newsAt work, my signature on my email is:
"It is impossible for anyone to learn that which he thinks he already knows."
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Keep up the good work!!