Maybe that's part of the problem. You shouldn't be going to church to be 'told' anything. You should be going to hear and test what you've heard with a spirit of humility and honesty. You should also go to share what you've learned. Real church is a dialog not a monologue. Also, you'll die before getting 'very familiar' with the Bible. You may even become familiar with a passage long before you actually know what it's really saying. Thats the beauty of its design. It's also why God intended his words to be passed down orally. Talking about his words promotes relationship with others.
I think we have to mature enough to know that Church is where we give and live out His word. Also, real church starts in your quiet time with God. Church cant replace your daily communion with Him - which is like Oxygen for you. At church you just test things out and confirm what you heard first from Him then from the secondary parties.
If you live your life of reliance on God like this - it will be hard for anyone to break your heart.
Having said that, church is an exchange. If all you are doing is feeling like you are giving giving giving and are not adequately being refilled as well - then its time you found a church that met that exchange well, or else you will weaken too without a good fellowship of believers.
There seems to be a lot of confusion about Biblical Giving and the Tithe.
Tithing was around from the beginning, even before the law of Moses.
Being redeemed from the curse of the law or not being under the law Does Not Excuse, Throw out or destroy the Tithe.
The tithe has Not Ever been apart of the law.
Now with that said, I am going to clear the air as they say and Distinguish the Different Biblical Giving.
3. First Fruits
1. Tithe has and always will be 10 percent of your earnings.
The tithe carries a different promise with it. Malachi 3:10-12
2. Offerings are an additional form of giving and have nothing to do with the tithe.
Offerings carry different promise all together separate from the Tithe Promise.
Such As Luke 6:38
Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.
Scriptures such as 2 Corinthians 9:7
Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.
This Does Not Say Anything about Taking away the tithe nor Does it Say It is Ok to Determine if you want to give 10 percent or not.
This is Dealing With Offerings
However........Giving Tithe out of duty or a heart grumbling is Not Acceptable either.
3. First Fruits.
This is Not the tithe as many believe
No the First Fruits are to be Given Once A Year. It is of your Increase.
Starting January 1st you are getting a 1 dollar an hour Raise.
So on a given 40 hour work week you would now be making 40 dollars more each paycheck.
First Fruit is simply taking the First Extra 40 Dollars (just once) and Adding it with your giving that week.
This does not cancel out your tithe.
Folks act like this is too much.
Let's think about this for a moment,
For the prior 52 weeks you lived with out the extra 40 dollars a week.
So why would one more week hurt you?
The next 51 weeks you keep the 40 extra dollars each week.
The thing I want you to see is this.
Do You Love and Respect God so much that You Will Keep Him First in your life including Your Finances.
If you think God does Not Notice.....
You are not thinking correctly.
This is totally separate from the other three and Is The Only One You Are Giving To Man. The other three are unto God.
Example giving to some one in need.
Helping out some one etc.
But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth:
This is the only Giving where God tells us to keep it quiet and do not make a big show of it.
It's not about the giver but Protecting the ones in need. Why draw attention to them or their need.
This is only a simple example of True Biblical Giving. One can dig deep into this.
I pray this has helped some and brought a clearer understanding of True Biblical Giving.