Yes, my guess is they come here feeling guilty. They don't want to talk about what they've already done to the people in their church, so they come here and give a half story. After they write it, they're done, they've vented already, and that's all they wanted to do. They only wanted to vent, and never come back to read the advice given.The other issue with these Marriage, boyfriend girlfriend threads and sex is that the Poster is not often honest in their part. They just give us their woe's and don't mention what they did.
We don't hear they allowed this or that, don't hear what we need to hear to make sound advice.
It's very one sided and they want to hear what they expect to hear. Most can't bare the real answer though.
Like Jesus, brings the dead, back to life.