I think the main problem Dusty, is few listen to what Jesus said there .
He said .. if your brother wrongs you .. tell him .. if He repents .. then forgive him .. and through hyperbole and parable illustrated we are always to forgive . but i think the communication break down represented by the saying "if you don't know then i'm not telling you" is what is making it more difficult . the way Jesus laid out is simple but we complicate things .
Right on . You got it . Too bad others don't have the same revelation. ( And before any one gets offended it is not dirrected at anyone in particular)