How to help this friend?
I know I have posted about this friend alot but I dont think anyone else is doing anything for him. I have reason to believe he may have a drink problem, a bad one. If I cut contact hes only going to continue, except with less christian influence. He refuses completely to talk to a pastor or anybody else in church or to come anywhere near the place. He was talking to me about missions a few nights ago and how hed love to get out there and help people but when I sent him some links to websites of organisations involved in missions work (partly because I got the impression he was offended by his own thought that christians seem to spend too much time praying and studying the bible in his opinion and not enough helping people) he complained that that wasnt 'cool' of me to do that and never wants me to bring up this or God or faith ever again. He once asked me why I had been at his house watching him from the trees but I have no idea where he lives so thats impossible. Ive come across him smelling of alcohol in mid-afternoon before. Theres pretty worrying photos on a social networking site of him looking worse than drunk even, and im not sure how many photos of him up there are actualy of him sober even. He might or might not believe in God, but if he does he seems to think God just sits there and lets us do the work down here or something and that the bible is just there to pick and choose what you want to believe from and only meant as you want it to be meant, he doesnt seem to believe that God can and does move down here at all. Hes also completely denying things that happened between us that others can confirm, he says he has no recollection of them but some years back he did remember and I know that there was no alcohol available at the time and places of these events so im worried about that too...like is it possible hes just a pathological liar or should I be worried about myself?
Can anyone give me the words to say to him? He will be gone from the country soon. I already tried cutting it off with him and telling him to talk to the pastor, giving the number etc, but he ended up back in contact with me refusing to speak to the pastor or have anything to do with church. I have no idea what to do here, but I dont think anyone else is going to do anything. I cant stay away from him when he needs help, no matter how bad it gets.
I know I have posted about this friend alot but I dont think anyone else is doing anything for him. I have reason to believe he may have a drink problem, a bad one. If I cut contact hes only going to continue, except with less christian influence. He refuses completely to talk to a pastor or anybody else in church or to come anywhere near the place. He was talking to me about missions a few nights ago and how hed love to get out there and help people but when I sent him some links to websites of organisations involved in missions work (partly because I got the impression he was offended by his own thought that christians seem to spend too much time praying and studying the bible in his opinion and not enough helping people) he complained that that wasnt 'cool' of me to do that and never wants me to bring up this or God or faith ever again. He once asked me why I had been at his house watching him from the trees but I have no idea where he lives so thats impossible. Ive come across him smelling of alcohol in mid-afternoon before. Theres pretty worrying photos on a social networking site of him looking worse than drunk even, and im not sure how many photos of him up there are actualy of him sober even. He might or might not believe in God, but if he does he seems to think God just sits there and lets us do the work down here or something and that the bible is just there to pick and choose what you want to believe from and only meant as you want it to be meant, he doesnt seem to believe that God can and does move down here at all. Hes also completely denying things that happened between us that others can confirm, he says he has no recollection of them but some years back he did remember and I know that there was no alcohol available at the time and places of these events so im worried about that too...like is it possible hes just a pathological liar or should I be worried about myself?
Can anyone give me the words to say to him? He will be gone from the country soon. I already tried cutting it off with him and telling him to talk to the pastor, giving the number etc, but he ended up back in contact with me refusing to speak to the pastor or have anything to do with church. I have no idea what to do here, but I dont think anyone else is going to do anything. I cant stay away from him when he needs help, no matter how bad it gets.