I've done some research and you two are correct. It is not that we should refrain from judging, but it is in the way that we judge and who we judge that matters most. I still try not to judge without also opening my mouth and telling the person, especially if I too have done what I am judging them about (even if in the past).
Today, I was able to talk to a dear friend of mine who was recently saved, and in a sense, I judged him about his engagement to his current fiance. It was great to be able to pull from the scriptures when reprimanding him for his decisions. I no longer felt as if it was me judging, but the Holy Spirit giving me guidance on my judgement on him, which allowed me to give him biblical advice and not just my opinion. Hope this makes sense and thank you all for opening my eyes to this.
Today, I was able to talk to a dear friend of mine who was recently saved, and in a sense, I judged him about his engagement to his current fiance. It was great to be able to pull from the scriptures when reprimanding him for his decisions. I no longer felt as if it was me judging, but the Holy Spirit giving me guidance on my judgement on him, which allowed me to give him biblical advice and not just my opinion. Hope this makes sense and thank you all for opening my eyes to this.