We are not to judge one another but what most people miss is the Word is the judge of what is right and wrong
Yes, I think I see your point-the Word is our ultimate authority and the basis for any reproof, correction, judgement, condemnation. As Ambassadors of Christ; we are responsible and given authority through God's Word for leadership if put in that position. Pastors head the Church, Fathers head the Home, Mothers, head the Children-Christ is the head of All.
'Judging' on our own accord is not scriptural-and living in hypocrisy as a 'leader' is also not scriptural. Am I close to your reasoning?