To all the single ladies don't get into a rush to find the perfect man.. Seek the Lord first allow him to be your first love. Allow him to love you and show you how much your worth and be loved by him then in his timing and his will be it he will send a man to you.. He will love you and give himself to you like Jesus gave himself to the church laying down his life for you he respect you there will never be a question or doubt in your heart, he will honor you he will cherish you, your feelings will matter and will be shown that they matter by his actions . A husband of promise is worth waiting for the two can't be one without God being the head of your relationship otherwise you're working against instead of together . God joins you together and no man can tear asunder. Now if you decide to go looking after your husband of promise in the flesh you will of the flesh reap what you sow. You set out to find that perfect man you might find one that is sweet and on the appearance seem to be that perfect guy but then his true colors show through. Sweetness only goes so far if you're not speaking the same language things and your love slowly start to diminish .. Communication is so important if its not two ways you got to be able to share and receive advice , hopes dreams . You will see that you are just being used . I have a friend she is single so she put herself on a dating site and she said she had to take herself off because her phone blew up all the men of different ages hitting her up and the main topic was sex... with a husband of promise even when dating you won't be treated like that because he will see your mind and soul he will love your personality sex is a gift between man and woman after marriage in holy marriage God ordained and it won't be torn apart. just think about it for a min ,,, why do marriages end ??? For starters unfaithfulness adultery and behind adultery is lust which by the way comes in many forms nor just a good looking woman or man but informs of car , computers , gambling , booze where you treasures are is where your heart is.. but will just say another person other then your spouse... with the woman or man of promise there is no lust because their priorities are from Gods word the honor him they honor you...without God being the center there is all kind of room for Satan to come in to steal kill and destroy your emotion's, self worth , hope and anything else. and when you're out you don't have to worry about if his eyes are straying nor going through his Facebook to find he has searched other woman out or find porn on his computer . It is truly a big circle when it comes to dysfunction it all comes around dysfunctions are past down, abuse , self esteem the list goes on .. My mother has been married 4 times all unsuccessful my older sister on her 3 rd marriage my self on my 3 rd. marriage my baby sister in a abusive relationship my oldest daughter in a abusive relationship my younger daughter in a dysfunctional relationship we go out in the flesh looking for what we have grown up seeing and we pass it on to our kids and they do theirs.. when God is saying love me let. me show you how much you're worth .. abuse goes on because the man picks the woman back up by this evil kindness after he has destroyed her self esteem and worth and as long as he does that she clings to him making excuses well he don't mean it maybe he is right I can't get any better we listen to the lies of Satan . My husband he loves his game more then me as well as his lust problem I have to worry because he has told me I'm chunky I have seen his eyes look at much younger woman and their tiny bodies I have walked out and have caught him speaking to woman if he was a husband God chose he would have no desire to speak to another woman without me around just I have no desire to speak to another man without him around unless we know the person.. I have not heard a I'm sorry I disrespected you yet even when I told him I was upset about it he just sat in silence. I know.. I do not for fill my husbands desires.. Im not skinny I m chunky.. and not young. my husband looked at porn and I have a hunch he still does...I'm stuck in this marriage of fear and insecurity and unhappiness because I went looking in the flesh. yes he goes to church he is the perfect husband does the relationship classes and no he does not read his bible or pray he shows me he has no purpose getting closer to God therefore getting closer to me strengthen our bond of marriage so I love him with the love of Jesus praying and trusting God's will be done maybe one day I will come home to find him gone or praying and reading and crying out to God I don't know all I do. know is Sister or brother. seek God and his kingdom first and everything else will follow in Gods time and will..