Relationships are challenging, (thanks bobinfaith for the below quote )
I am not always a people person, and i become withdrawn at times to process stuff. And i dont go out of my way to help people unless they ask first...unless its my duty to do so, because either i fear being taken advantage of and wont know how to say no with out lying, or they are quite capable of doing it their self and would end up smoothered, and depending on me for everything . But this generally only happens to people i can sense are taking advantage. Not generally to christians.
In the past, i have been put on, and felt resentment later. But now i have grown wise to this, but i still feel in limbo, so to speak, that when someone wants something that i dont feel up to doing for one reason or another, i still find i give excuses or, dig my heels in. Sometimes the help i can or do give does not match up to their expectations of what they desire or need, because i am not enthusiastic in the first place. Perhaps because i dont think they need any help at all, or that its not really my responsibility. I would hate to become that friend who does everything for others and get burnt out. Yes, its about boundaries. Being honest. But i have also seen other people resent this and it backfires, when you dont give them an 'excuse'. This is particylarly prevailant at work, where people also want an easy life.
Should we as christians, be giving excuses (or telling little white lies)to just have an easier life?
Christians are going to be challenged in this area because we are in the people business
I am not always a people person, and i become withdrawn at times to process stuff. And i dont go out of my way to help people unless they ask first...unless its my duty to do so, because either i fear being taken advantage of and wont know how to say no with out lying, or they are quite capable of doing it their self and would end up smoothered, and depending on me for everything . But this generally only happens to people i can sense are taking advantage. Not generally to christians.
In the past, i have been put on, and felt resentment later. But now i have grown wise to this, but i still feel in limbo, so to speak, that when someone wants something that i dont feel up to doing for one reason or another, i still find i give excuses or, dig my heels in. Sometimes the help i can or do give does not match up to their expectations of what they desire or need, because i am not enthusiastic in the first place. Perhaps because i dont think they need any help at all, or that its not really my responsibility. I would hate to become that friend who does everything for others and get burnt out. Yes, its about boundaries. Being honest. But i have also seen other people resent this and it backfires, when you dont give them an 'excuse'. This is particylarly prevailant at work, where people also want an easy life.
Should we as christians, be giving excuses (or telling little white lies)to just have an easier life?
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