Your concerns ring true to my ear. I too have a situation here that is difficult, and am trying to keep calm and trust. At the same time, I realize that there may come a point when I must decide, and take a definitive step.
Years ago, when our youngest daughter was just 27 weeks into her gestation, and we were away in Ohio from CT for Christmas, my wife woke with great pain in the middle of the night, and we rushed her to the hospital.
I was told that my child was going to be born, and they couldn't stop it.
The child was coming "breach" (sp?) and was about 1 lb..
A Nurse came into the room where I was pacing back-n-forth while they prepped my wife, and handed me a form on a clipboard with these words,"If you sign this form, we will do everything huanly possible to save your childs life; if you don't, only comfort measures will be applied."
Now that statement, for some of you, might be a no-brainer; but at 23, that question or option was HUGE. I felt as if the weight of the world was on my shoulders. That child, at one pound, would have a 5% chance of survival, they told me. Did I want to subject a likely dying child to that kind of trauma? Perhaps that child would have serious complications?!
I didn't want the right to play "God," and didn't know where to turn. So I called the one person (at 3 AM) that I knew I could trust above anyone else...........my Dad.
I explained what they told me, and all about the form, and I asked him what I should do. His response was, "Son, God has given man the ability to achieve great things. I think you should take advantage of every possible avenue to save your childs life. I see no ethical or moral issue with that."
I signed the form...............
Sometimes, in tough situations that require more-or-less immediate action, we must take a step in faith. A step that lines up with Gods Word. of course, but a step, none-the-less. We may not always know the outcome or result of our decision, but we go with the best information and intentions we can muster.
Oh, by the way.........that child was a girl (our youngest). She is now 34, and perfectly healthy. She's married, and has graced us (by Gods Intent) with three wonderful Grandchildren! See that?! God knew!!