Apprently, We Weren't Careful Enough. My Wife Is Pregnant Again.

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She just took the home pregnancy test yesterday, and it came up positive. She is at her doctor's now to confirm.

I am panicking because neither of us wanted a second child because of her health. She didn't want to do any of the birth control because she is on enough medications already, so we were doing the pull out method and only having sex every couple weeks (yes, I know it only takes once). With condoms I took too long, which was difficult for my wife because of her health, so we didn't use them either.

I am terrified of telling my mom and step-dad since they have already threatened that if my wife was to get pregnant again, they would disown me and my wife as well as their grandchildren. We're not sure what her family will say. Her mom kinda laughed when we told her last night night as she lives with us.

I really do not want to lose my family. I am so terrified of this it is starting to make me sick and I only found out last night.
 

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Man, I would give anything for my wife to have a child. Be happy! If your family is going to disown you over having another child then screw 'em. Your wife is your family and she's more important than them.

As for the health issues, we will be praying! She will be fine and you'll have another beautiful child!
 
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Interesting family issues. God gave you a child. Have them take it up with him.
Interesting family issues. God gave you a child. Have them take it up with him.
I have tried that tactic before, they do not. As they feel that God is not that involved in our day to day lives, nor is He the one that gives or doesn't give us children. That I just have too many problems for another child which includes marital issues, with arguments and my wife threatening divorce almost at each argument.

I am literally almost breaking down.
 
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She just took the home pregnancy test yesterday, and it came up positive. She is at her doctor's now to confirm.

I am panicking because neither of us wanted a second child because of her health. She didn't want to do any of the birth control because she is on enough medications already, so we were doing the pull out method and only having sex every couple weeks (yes, I know it only takes once). With condoms I took too long, which was difficult for my wife because of her health, so we didn't use them either.

I am terrified of telling my mom and step-dad since they have already threatened that if my wife was to get pregnant again, they would disown me and my wife as well as their grandchildren. We're not sure what her family will say. Her mom kinda laughed when we told her last night night as she lives with us.

I really do not want to lose my family. I am so terrified of this it is starting to make me sick and I only found out last night.
Will pray for you
 
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Man, I would give anything for my wife to have a child. Be happy! If your family is going to disown you over having another child then screw 'em. Your wife is your family and she's more important than them.

As for the health issues, we will be praying! She will be fine and you'll have another beautiful child!
I wish that I was at the point where I could be happy. Right now I am absolutely terrified.
 
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I have tried that tactic before, they do not. As they feel that God is not that involved in our day to day lives, nor is He the one that gives or doesn't give us children. That I just have too many problems for another child which includes marital issues, with arguments and my wife threatening divorce almost at each argument.

I am literally almost breaking down.
:eek:

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Is it something that would threaten the life of your wife?
 
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:eek:

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

Is it something that would threaten the life of your wife?
It's not that it can kill her, but it absolutely could put her into a wheelchair for the rest of her life.
 

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I wish that I was at the point where I could be happy. Right now I am absolutely terrified.
Why can't you be happy? You and your wife created a new child.

It's not that it can kill her, but it absolutely could put her into a wheelchair for the rest of her life.
What are the alternatives? God gave you a child so He will take care of her.
 
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It's not that it can kill her, but it absolutely could put her into a wheelchair for the rest of her life.
Pray with faith.. With God all things are possible..

On a lighter side, it is not your problem.. It is God's problem to get the baby delivered safely and keeping your wife safe :D In a crude way, that is how Jesus wants us to approach life..
 
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Be restored by the Holy Spirit. Strength is there if you accept it.
That is easier said then done for me.

As I tell others, I have intellectual knowledge of being a Christian, but acting on it is a completely different matter. I am that way in all things. Unless I am shown, with hands on instruction by someone standing in front of me, it's near impossible for me to do what is being said or I am being told to do. I have trouble transferring book knowledge to doing it if that makes sense.
 
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Pray with faith.. With God all things are possible..

On a lighter side, it is not your problem.. It is God's problem to get the baby delivered safely and keeping your wife safe :D In a crude way, that is how Jesus wants us to approach life..
I am not at that point where I can accept and believe the above.
 
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Naomanos, I understand you feel pressured and even scared.

I'm not happy for your feeling this way -- my happiness is strictly do to a miracle taking place -- a new life coming into existence.

Have you gone to your local church or parish for help?
 
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I think that maybe I was wrong for posting this thread. It hasn't really helped and is only making things worse. I am not able to do the things that you guys have said. As mentioned, I have intellectual knowledge, but moving that to my heart is near impossible. So it is only making me feel much worse than before I posted.
 

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Yes, we did, but I cannot be happy because I am fearful of the repercussions.


I can read that, but knowing that is an entirely different matter.

Your fearful of what? Your wife's health issues?

What are you planning to do then? The only thing you could do to prevent it would be to have an abortion, which would be very selfish. Otherwise you just have to strap in and get ready.
 
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Naomanos, I understand you feel pressured and even scared.

I'm not happy for your feeling this way -- my happiness is strictly do to a miracle taking place -- a new life coming into existence.

Have you gone to your local church or parish for help?
I have not gone to our church, yet, no. I will probably talk to our pastor on Sunday. I will not go to the Catholic church since I no longer consider myself Catholic and do not feel right talking to a priest. It will have to wait till Sunday.
 

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I think that maybe I was wrong for posting this thread. It hasn't really helped and is only making things worse. I am not able to do the things that you guys have said. As mentioned, I have intellectual knowledge, but moving that to my heart is near impossible. So it is only making me feel much worse than before I posted.
We aren't trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to understand what's going to help you and where you're coming from.
 
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Your fearful of what? Your wife's health issues?

What are you planning to do then? The only thing you could do to prevent it would be to have an abortion, which would be very selfish. Otherwise you just have to strap in and get ready.
I am fearful of my wife's health issues as well as losing my family. Losing family to some may not be a big deal, but it is to me.

Abortion hasn't even crossed my mind.