Klub, you might be confident in how the various churches you've experienced have operated, unfortunately your understanding still contradicts scripture, as I previously pointed out.
You condemn the way church gatherings are actually described in scripture, and yet fully support a false man made top down system.
1Cor14v26What is the outcome then, brethren? When you assemble, each one has a psalm, has a teaching, has a revelation, has a tongue, has an interpretation. Let all things be done for edification.27If anyone speaks in a tongue, it should be by two or at the most three, and each in turn, and one must interpret;…
Do you see that Paul's description shows everyone participating in the gathering, and each one ministering via the use of the "charismatic" gifts.
(I use the word charismatic only in the generic sense and not as a backing for any church movement.)
If you are ministering in church without using the gifts of the spirit, then that leaves you operating in the flesh! That's hardly a recipe for edifying the church of the Lord Jesus Christ is it?