I've always thought we honor our OWN mothers in order to be like Jesus, because he was honoring HIS OWN mother (such as making an arrangement while He was on the cross by telling his disciple John to take care of HIS OWN mother. I see Jesus honoring his mother in obedience to Jewish tradition and the Law. I honor my own parents for the same reasons and in obedience to Jesus. I also honor Mary because she was chosen to be the vessel through which our Lord came to this world, but I honestly don't see her elevated in the scriptures in the way that Catholics elevate her. If you know where those scriptures are, please share them with me. Thank you.
Sorry for the delay. Now that I'm at my office, I can give a better answer rather than a half-attempted one.
It sounds like we're both on the same page that 1) Mary should never be worshiped and 2) Mary is not divine. However, you asked a good (and perfectly fair) question: Why is Mary held above others if she's not divine? She's only a human.
Moving forward, just to let you know, this is not my attempt to change anyone's minds, but to explain the Catholic position of this. When all is said and done, we may still disagree on the interpretation of Scripture, but I am only meaning to explain the Catholic position.
1: When it comes to the enmity of Satan, in Genesis 3:15, the mention of the mother of God is referenced:
I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel. This is partly why Mary is sometimes depicted as stomping on the head of a serpent.
2: In Isaiah 7:14, we know Christ was born of a virgin.
3: We know through Luke 1:26-28 that Mary was
full of grace even before the incarnation:
in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin's name was Mary. And he came to her and said, "Hail, full of grace, the Lord is with you!"
4: Mary wasn't simply a woman who had Jesus, she was set apart from all women through the grace of God. In Luke 1:41-42, it says this:
When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb; and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. And she cried out with a loud voice and said, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb!
5: We also know through Scripture that Mary is the mother of God -- which I suspect we're all on board with, but it deserves mentioning:
And why is this granted me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? (Luke 1:43)
6: We don't regard Mary as not needing a savior -- we know she, as a human, was just as much in need of one as anyone. We see this is Luke 1:47:
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
7: Mary's role has always continued as a being blessed among all women. It says in Luke 1:48
for he has regarded the low estate of his handmaiden. For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed;
8: We understand that Mary's suffering had a unity with Christ's holy suffering on the cross. In Luke 2:34-35, it says
and Simeon blessed them and said to Mary his mother, "Behold, this child is set for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign that is spoken against (and a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that thoughts out of many hearts may be revealed."
9: Mary's role isn't to direct glory to her, but to direct glory to her son. In John 2:3-5 says
When the wine failed, the mother of Jesus said to him, "They have no wine." And Jesus said to her, "O woman, what have you to do with me? My hour has not yet come." His mother said to the servants, "Do whatever he tells you. This is a perfect illustration of what Mary is to us.
10: Spiritually speaking, because Christ's Church make up His body (Romans 12:4-5), we regard Mary as our mother--not in a way of giving her divinity, but in recognizing Christ's divinity. In Revelations 12, where it talks about the Woman and the Child, it points out the those in fellowship with Christ as the offspring--Revelation 12:17:
Then the dragon was angry with the woman, and went off to make war on the rest of her offspring, on those who keep the commandments of God and bear testimony to Jesus. And he stood on the sand of the sea. This also goes back to the Woman still at enmity with Satan.
11: As Christ is the New Covenant, we recognize Mary as the ark of the New Covenant. In Revelation 11:19-12:1:
Then God's temple in heaven was opened, and the ark of his covenant was seen within his temple; and there were flashes of lightning, voices, peals of thunder, an earthquake, and heavy hail. And a great portent appeared in heaven, a woman clothed with the sun, with the moon under her feet, and on her head a crown of twelve stars;
So again, if we don't agree on translation (as I suspect we won't--that's very much what it ties down to), then that is absolutely fine. Nonetheless, that is the Scriptural position Catholics and Orthodox and others have in regards to Mary, why we honor her, love her, and look to her intercession in order to become fully united with God -- God is the ends and Mary is a means.
Just to make sure we're all on the same page, this response was never intended to point at anyone and say "you're wrong and here's why" -- rather, it was intended to offer some insight on how we view Mary. My hope is that even if you still disagree, you'll know precisely what it is you disagree with. And further, I hope this creates a better relationship as we can understand one another a bit clearer when addressing something this controversial.