Siblings without rivalry

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well yea you say things as a joke and then incite everyone to hurt each other.

Great.

There has to be a better way.

I was reading this book about the mum who's son killed people in Columbine. I was horrified that she blithely let her son get away with murder(s). Didn't see the warning signs, and didn't do anything to prevent the tragedy...her son was in trouble a full two years before it happened...and he got let off. He even was celebrated for being let off another crime. She even encouraged him to lie..! While he was killing people, he made jokes.
 
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There really is not much you can do about sibling rivalry; aside from only having one kid. It will come and it will go. Ok, in some cases it will not fully go, but that is not the rule. Two of my five are boys. One day, the little one was being picked on and came to be for help. My suggestion was that he pick up a shovel and hit the order older one. I said it as a joke, but Jeremy picked up a shovel and hit Hagen in the stomach. Twenty years later, the older one is a pacifist and an academic; currently working on his PhD in Behavioral Economics. The younger one is a firefighter and can bench press a truck.

Sometimes, you just have to roll with the punches and see where it takes you. Sibling Rivalry is a natural consequence of having siblings.
Exactly!! I sometimes wonder in our modern world, where there seem to be a lot of only children (for whatever reason), that the positives of sibling rivalry are lost. Brothers and sisters 'knock the edges of you' for want of better words. You learn to share, to reason, to socialise, to manipulate eek! But you do. And you learn all this at home, where you are safe-ish lol. You learn the art of give-and-take. Not because you want to but because you have to. I have a lot of teenagers in my home because I teach English as a foreign language. ALL the only children I ask, would love to have brothers and sisters. All the other kids say they would love to be an only child. Go figure...
 
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If everything is a joke nobody will take you seriously, sorry..because jokes can be cruel. And that means you need to put up with fights ALL THE TIME since nothing is ever done about them.
I apologise for my frivolous use of the English language, and I DO sincerely apologise if I have offended you. But I DO suffer from the English condition of sarcasm, and I do include it in my posts. Sorry. If you think in the future that I've said anything offensive, please don't hesitate to privately message me. I may take a few days to reply, but I will xxx
 
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I apologise for my frivolous use of the English language, and I DO sincerely apologise if I have offended you. But I DO suffer from the English condition of sarcasm, and I do include it in my posts. Sorry. If you think in the future that I've said anything offensive, please don't hesitate to privately message me. I may take a few days to reply, but I will xxx
I exist in a constant state of sarcasm. The way I look at it, God must have a sense of humor, or else, why would he have created me.

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He created you because He loves you. If your heart needs healing, let Him have it.
Not sure what that means.
God did create us because He loves us.

Jeremiah 31:3, 3 the Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.

John 3:16, 16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

When we have suffering, heartaches, setbacks and battles with sin, these are weaknesses that God commands us to lay at His feet so He can reveal His strength.

Proverbs 17:22, 22 “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”

Isaiah 41:10, 10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

I have faith that these Scriptures, all Scriptures and incessant prayer allows God to guide us with our sibling rivalries or without rivalry.
 
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Hallulujah am making some progress.

Well yesterday I had two girls wanting to sit on the same chair.

And there was only one chair available.

Lets see if you learned anything...what would YOU do as the adult in this situation?
 
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Hmm nobody learned how to deal with this??

I'm very surprised. Lets put what we learned into practise...the Bible also gives tips. Anyone remember when there were two brothers fighting over who was going to sit next to Jesus??
 
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Ok well this happened lunchtime today two girls were again fighting over a chair at the library desk.

One I had designated librarian monitor and but she came in late and the another girl who wasn't a monitor was already sitting there and wouldn't give it up.

In this situation I said please move, *I* need to sit there.
the librarian monitor was upset and crying but the other girl was gloating. I then sat in the chair until my monitor was ready to come back as I said I would reserve her seat for her, but she needed to come in earlier to get her spot on her designated day to prevent this happening again.
The other girl realised she was being a bully and she said sorry to the other girl and to me(I didn't make her apologise, but I did let her know what she was doing was wrong) and I said please do not do that again.

If the other girl wants to be a monitor she needs to sign up and be trained.
After that the librarian monitor stopped crying, came and did her job, and left me a big note saying THANKS.

This is no guarantee it won't happen again with other girls, but these girls now know I'm not going to stand for nonsense like that.