Isn't that what I said?I would also add a thought about the scripture you quoted, that holiness is not a set of rules for holiness. Paul never did such a thing. He was rebuking two groups in this passage the legalist and those who where in the lust of their flesh. Sexual sins and worldly lust. Paul taught against both, but especially against forms of legalism. "touch not, taste not handle not" Paul taught liberty from carnal rules and above all he taught that "nothing profits but faith working by love"
From my own personal experience of walking with the Lord, the moment I was born again I was cleansed from fornication, from swearing (and I was an expert at it), from the desire of going to bars and drinking (which was usually the cause of the first two mentioned), from a revengeful attitude that stopped just short of murder, but those are all characteristics of the carnal nature and to stop practicing them has nothing to do with holiness and when I was in my infancy with the Lord the subject of Holiness revolted me, I used to think, how dare anyone put rules or regulations on me, but I learned that attitude was again my carnal nature, what changed my walk was what Abdicate said, the Holy Spirit taught me Rom 7, after learning who was vying for control in me I was able to lean on the Holy Spirit for His strength in the struggles with my flesh.
I don't think we will ever understand Holiness until we stop trying to be Holy by what we do, ...again, I believe Holiness in our lives is a result of being conformed into the image of our Lord Jesus Christ who a bruised reed would not break or a smoldering wick would not quench. Then, when we stop trying, we will just naturally exhibit the fruit of the Holy Spirit: Love, ...manifested in our walks by joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, meekness, self-control.
Holiness is not us using the Holy Spirit as a tool to accomplish our own goals or agenda, Holiness is dying to self and allowing the Holy Spirit preform/live the life/character of Jesus Christ through us. John 3:30