I love the Vines Expository Dictionatry of the New testament because it not only lists the definitions of the words in the origianl laguage but it is also very specific as to which menaing fits each particular nerse and it's grammatic composition- below is what Vines says on the matter ( located towards the bottom)- and if we still disagree let us respectfully agree to disagree as brethren in Christ may doL
Repent, Repentance
<A-1,Verb,3340,metanoeo>
lit., "to perceive afterwards" (meta, "after," implying "change," noeo, "to perceive;" nous, "the mind, the seat of moral reflection"), in contrast to pronoeo, "to perceive beforehand," hence signifies "to change one's mind or purpose," always, in the NT, involving a change for the better, an amendment, and always, except in Luk_17:3-4, of "repentance" from sin. The word is found in the Synoptic Gospels (in Luke, nine times), in Acts five times, in the Apocalypse twelve times, eight in the messages to the churches, Rev_2:5 (twice), Rev_2:16, Rev_2:21 (twice), RV, "she willeth not to repent" (2nd part); Rev_3:3, Rev_3:19 (the only churches in those chapters which contain no exhortation in this respect are those at Smyrna and Philadelphia); elsewhere only in 2Co_12:21. See also the general Note below.
<A-2,Verb,3338,metamelomai>
meta, as in No. 1, and melo, "to care for," is used in the Passive Voice with the Middle Voice sense, signifying "to regret, to repent oneself," Mat_21:29, RV, "repented himself;" Mat_21:32, RV, "ye did (not) repent yourselves" (AV, "ye repented not"); Mat_27:3, "repented himself" 2Co_7:8 (twice), RV, "regret" in each case; Heb_7:21, where alone in the NT it is said (negatively) of God.
<B-1,Adjective,278,ametameletos>
"not repented of, unregretted" (a, negative, and a verbal adjective of A, No. 2), signifies "without change of purpose;" it is said (a) of God in regard to his "gifts and calling," Rom_11:29; (b) of man, 2Co_7:10, RV, "[repentance (metanoia, see C)] ... which bringeth no regret" (AV, "not to be repented of"); the difference between metanoia and metamelomai, illustrated here, is briefly expressed in the contrast between "repentance" and "regret."
<C-1,Noun,3341,metanoia>
"afterthought, change of mind, repentance," corresponds in meaning to A, No. 1, and is used of "repentance" from sin or evil, except in Heb_12:17, where the word "repentance" seems to mean, not simply a change of Isaac's mind, but such a change as would reverse the effects of his own previous state of mind. Esau's birthright-bargain could not be recalled; it involved an irretrievable loss. As regards "repentance" from sin, (a) the requirement by God on man's part is set forth, e.g., in Mat_3:8; Luk_3:8; Act_20:21; Act_26:20; (b) the mercy of God in giving "repentance" or leading men to it is set forth, e.g., in Act_5:31; Act_11:18; Rom_2:4; 2Ti_2:25. The most authentic mss. omit the word in Mat_9:13; Mar_2:17, as in the RV.
Note: In the OT, "repentance" with reference to sin is not so prominent as that change of mind or purpose, out of pity for those who have been affected by one's action, or in whom the results of the action have not fulfilled expectations, a "repentance" attributed both to God and to man, e.g., Gen_6:6; Exo_32:14 (that this does not imply anything contrary to God's immutability, but that the aspect of His mind is changed toward an object that has itself changed, see under RECONCILE).
In the NT the subject chiefly has reference to "repentance" from sin, and this change of mind involves both a turning from sin and a turning to God. The parable of the Prodigal Son is an outstanding illustration of this. Christ began His ministry with a call to "repentance," Mat_4:17, but the call is addressed, not as in the OT to the nation, but to the individual. In the Gospel of John, as distinct from the Synoptic Gospels, referred to above, "repentance" is not mentioned, even in connection with John the Baptist's preaching; in John's Gospel and 1st Epistle the effects are stressed, e.g., in the new birth, and, generally, in the active turning from sin to God by the exercise of faith (Joh_3:3; Joh_9:38; 1Jo_1:9), as in the NT in general.
In His Name and with His love- brother Larry