We should desire all the gift the Spirit. As a Christian we can expect the Holy Spirit to give them to us as the situation requires them. Sometimes we will know when they are given to us and sometimes not. One thing is for sure is the person who is the on receiving end for why it was given to you will know it was from God.
I worked one time with a guy who had the worse mouth I have ever heard. Every other word he spoke was a curse word. I Spirit spoke to me and said, "this guy use to be a preacher" I thought to myself, now way, no one talks like this except the most ungodly. Come to find out while eating lunch together he told me he use to be a preacher, I said you don't say! Somehow he had very very bad experience which caused him to fall away. That was my opening to minister to him and for his return to the Lord.
These are the kinds of things the Holy Spirit gives us so we can pray with knowledge and understanding for those who are lost and those who have turned aside and need a little nudge back to that narrow path.
Man ccw95 you truly are a man of god. It makes my heart happy that you minister to those who fell away. I've been there and they probably think there is no hope for them.
So you are doing gods work, I know god is proud of you.