Meantime, PLEASE DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT THIS!! Keep going - you can trust me that if you do, then the day will come when (with God helping you) "Your Desperation Quotient" will give you the Victory!!!
1. It will become more and more easy to SEE where others are going wrong, including their SIN!
2. It will become more and more easy to think they are on the WRONG TRACK, and so..
3. It will become more and more easy to be JUDGING them about - shall we call it the "level", or the "standard" of their Christian life!!
But you know that we're commanded NOT to judge, as the TRIPLE warning in: Luke Ch 6:37 Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
What can best OVERCOME judgmentaism? LOVE (agape) - because you're NOT going to judge those who you love with God's Own love!!
Wow. The message on being judgemental sure hit home for me. I had wondered at one time, why I was suddenly so much more judgemental than usual. And you hit it on the head, Bondman, when you said that we become more aware of what is right and what is wrong and that what we see in others is in us!
I struggled with this for a while, and I still have some problems with it today. But God gently reminds me that the person I am looking at is usually a 'baby' Christian and they havent been dealt with about that particular issue yet. And that I have had to be dealt with about worse, so give them a break. And that usually rises up compassion in me for the other person. God is so wise, and so gentle with us when we stumble.