What if we approach Hell from the opposite direction, that is Heaven?
Heaven is a place with no suffering, yes? If so, how can anyone say there is no suffering in Heaven while untold billions are forever being tormented in Hell? Do those in Heaven simply forget about their former loved ones?
Yes, Heaven is indeed a place of no suffering. However, no, we will not suffer in the knowledge of the loss of those we may have loved. You'll have to think outside the box of our weaknesses and lack of experience here in this realm by letting Paul's words speak to the deeper parts of your understanding:
1 Corinthians 13:12 For
now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face:
now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
Even the familial relationships we have here on earth, they dissolve away in eternity. For example, my former wife I had here on this earth, she is no longer my wife there. Father, mother, son , daughter, niece, nephew, etc., they all dissolve away from any importance when we also consider:
Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
Colasians 3:11 Where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond [nor] free: but Christ [is] all, and in all.
In other words, in eternity, the distinctions and ties we see here will all melt away through us all having a common bond through Christ Jesus, and those who are not a part of that bond because they have chosen to keep their sins upon themselves, to try and atone for them through eternity in Hell, they are not longer of any relationship to we in Heaven. We won't celebrate their chosen path, but we will also have no reason to bemoan their choice in life and eternity.
Isaiah 25:8
He will swallow up death in victory; and the Lord GOD will wipe away tears from off all faces; and the rebuke of his people shall he take away from off all the earth: for the LORD hath spoken [it].
Revelation 7:17 For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them, and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters:
and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.
Revelation 21:4
And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
See that? The tears are because of the experience of death and sorrows of this life, and they will all be wiped away. Understanding is a powerful thing, and the understanding that He will give to us is more than adequate to wipe away "all" our tears. It won't be some giddy indifference to the suffering in Hell, but rather an understanding that those people in that place chose to be there, and that nothing will ever change that.
It's not fatalism, but rather the difference between the lack of understanding we have here, and what we will gain once we enter into that realm.
MM