Yes, it's a common misconception that God sends people to Hell, when in fact it's them. It's not God. Most people choose to keep their sins upon themselves rather than calling upon the name of the Lord to be redeemed from their sins. Them thinking that they can keep their sins upon themselves, and somehow pay the penalty for those sins, that's on them, not God.
It's written that Hell was prepared for Satan and the angels who followed after him:
Matthew 25:41 Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
Dare they argue with that, I would have to ask them to explain what it is that's keeping them from allowing Christ Jesus to take their sins upon Himself so that they don't have to try and atone for them in an eternal destruction. That simply makes no sense, and then to blame God for putting them there...?
No. Here's my thoughts on all this....at the moment the veil of one's humanity drops away at death, they know intuitively their place in eternity. They blame nobody but themselves. The rich man who once existed, and is now in Sheol awaiting the Great White Throne Judgement, knew his situation was just, for he did not at any time in his conversation with Abraham ask to be pardoned, or delivered from that place of torment:
Luke 16:24-31
24 And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame.
25 But Abraham said, Son, remember that thou in thy lifetime receivedst thy good things, and likewise Lazarus evil things: but now he is comforted, and thou art tormented.
26 And beside all this, between us and you there is a great gulf fixed: so that they which would pass from hence to you cannot; neither can they pass to us, that [would come] from thence.
27 Then he said, I pray thee therefore, father, that thou wouldest send him to my father's house:
28 For I have five brethren; that he may testify unto them, lest they also come into this place of torment.
29 Abraham saith unto him, They have Moses and the prophets; let them hear them.
30 And he said, Nay, father Abraham: but if one went unto them from the dead, they will repent.
31 And he said unto him, If they hear not Moses and the prophets, neither will they be persuaded, though one rose from the dead.
So, today the Gospel is all throughout the world, and most still refuse to listen and repent, so them going into everlasting torment is of their own doing, not God's. The Lord is gracious and loving, and has provided a way of escape, and yet most choose to not partake of that narrow path.
The chronic whiners out there will still complain about how unfair it is, but they do so only in this life whereby we see through a glass darkly. At the point of death, the deceptions and ignorance of our humanity drop away like a discarded garment, and they will know.
MM